Why do guys cheat?

No really, why? Dont say they get bored with the relationship because thats a lame answer and if they are that bored they could just end it.

 

man that's strange, I know I dont even if we can trust them????

 

Well I know I cant anymore. Im probably gonna get a bunch of posters telling me that not all guys are the same blah blah blah, but so far they havent proven to me otherwise.

 

i agree that you should not make promises of exclusivity that you have no intention of keeping. you also should not assume a promise of exclusivity without asking the question.

 

I think it's more important to find out why you fall for the guys who seem to want to cheat. We all have a "type". It's the like the guys who say they always fall for the girls who want to play games.

Best of luck... and sorry.

 

Why do girls cheat?

 

i couldnt bring myself to cheat so i cant answer the question really.

 

But you dont represent the female population.
Pretty much everyone cheats, only a small minority never do.
Thats life, you put trust and faith into someone and they break your heart. YOur better off with no strings attached sex. That way you dont get hurt.

 

yeah thats what i did at first then he asked me to be his girlfriend for some reason i cant figure out

 

You might be better off staying single for a few weeks/months and dont get emotionally involved with anyone.
But hey im a 16 year old kid, what do i know?
I got my own problems, i cant seem to get over that my ex's first time was with someone else, while me and her werent talking. Now we are semi-back together, but i cant get over it.

 

It's tough to get a handle on how many of us are having affairs, given the inherent secrecy.

• 22 percent of married men have strayed at least once during their married lives.
• 14 percent of married women have had affairs at least once during their married lives.
• Younger people are more likely candidates; in fact, younger women are as likely as younger men to be unfaithful.
• 70 percent of married women and 54 percent of married men did not know of their spouses' extramarital activity.
• 5 percent of married men and 3 percent of married women reported having sex with someone other than their spouse in the year1997.
• 22 percent of men and 14 percent of women admitted to having sexual relations outside their marriage sometime in their past.
• 90 percent of Americans believe adultery is morally wrong.
• 50 percent of Americans say President Clinton's adultery makes his moral standard "about the same as the average married man,'' according to a Time-CNN poll.
• 61 percent of Americans thought adultery should not be a crime in the United states; 35 percent thought it should; 4 percent had no opinion.
• 17 percent of divorces in the United States are caused by infidelity.
• [size=-1]Source: Associated Press[/size]
• Up to 37% of men and 22% of women admit to having affairs. Researchers think the vast majority of the millions of people who visit chat rooms, have multiple "special friends”. Dr. Bob Lanier, askbob.com [size=-1][/size]
• Recent studies reveal that 45-55% of married women and 50-60% of married men engage in extramarital sex at some time or another during their relationship (Atwood & Schwartz, 2002 - Journal of Couple & Relationship Therapy)
• Only 46% of men believe that online affairs are adultery. DivorceMag
• 80% think it's Ok to talk with a stranger identified as the opposite sex. 75% thinks it's ok to visit an adult site.
• About 60 percent of men and 40 percent of women will have an affair at some point in some marriage "Monogamy Myth", Therapist Peggy Vaugn
• About 24 percent of men and 14 percent of women have had sex outside their marriages, according to a Dec. 21, 1998 report in USA Today on a national study by the University of California, San Francisco.
• Affairs affect one of every 2.7 couples, according to counselor Janis Abrahms Spring, author of After the Affair,as reported by the Washington Post on March 30, 1999. Ten percent of extramarital affairs last one day, 10 percent last more than one day but less than a month, 50 percent last more than a month but less than a year, but 40 percent last two or more years. Few extramarital affairs last more than four years.
• A lesser known fact is that those who divorce rarely marry the person with whom they are having the affair. For example, Dr. Jan Halper’s study of successful men (executives, entrepreneurs, professionals) found that very few men who have affairs divorce their wife and marry their lovers. Only 3 percent of the 4,100 successful men surveyed eventually married their lovers.
• Frank Pittman has found that the divorce rate among those who married their lovers was 75 percent. The reasons for the high divorce rate include: intervention of reality, guilt, expectations, a general distrust of marriage, and a distrust of the affairee.
• One-third of divorce litigation is caused by online affairs. This Is An Internet E-Mergency, The Fortino Group
• Approximately 70% of time on-line is spent in chat rooms or sending e-mail; of these interactions, the vast majority are romantic in nature. Dr. Michael Adamse, PhD., co-author of Affairs of the Net: The Cybershrinks' Guide to Online Relationships
• Because of the anonymity, affordability, and accessibility of Internet sexual resources, the computer can accelerate the transition from "at risk" to "addicted," as well as the progression of sex addiction in those with a history of prior sexual compulsivity. Cooper et al Survey
• 8-10 percent of Internet users become hooked on cybersex. Dr. Bob Lanier, askbob.com [size=-1][/size]
• Spouses who get hooked on Internet porn are a growing complaint among spouses filing for divorce, according to a survey of 350 divorce attorneys. "If there's dissatisfaction in the existing relationship, the Internet is an easy way for people to scratch the itch," said lawyer J. Lindsey Short, Jr., president of the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers, which conducted the study.
• 57% of people have used the Internet to flirt.
• 38% of people have engaged in explicit online sexual conversation and 50% of people have made phone contact with someone they chatted with online.
• Evidence proves there is a high correlation between on-line infidelity and subsequent real-time sexual affairs.
• Evidence supports the existence of disinhibition, accelerated intimacy, and hyper-sexual online behavior that can easily lead to real-time infidelity
• 31% of people have had an online conversation that has led to real-time sex.
• It is estimated that 53% of all people will have one or more affairs during their lifetime.
• Look at the numbers from Playboy Magazine:
• -2 out of 3 women and 3 out of 4 men admit they have sexual thoughts about co-workers.
• -86% of men and 81% of women admit they routinely flirt with the opposite sex.
• -75% of men and 65% of women admit to having sex with people they work with.
• The fact is that human beings are NOT monogamous by nature. That means they cheat.
• Experts say that a gut instinct is the most powerful indicator of a cheating lover. Adultery statistics state that 85% of woman who feel their lover is cheating are correct. 50% of men who feel their lover is cheating are right. The first clue is seldom obvious. Typically, it's a "feeling" that something is different.
• Cheating spouse statistics confirm that 50 and 70 percent of married men (between 38 and 53 million men) have cheated or will cheat on their wives. One study found that 2/3 of the wives (26 to 36 million women) whose husbands were cheating had no idea their husbands were having an affair - largely because they failed to recognize the telltale signs.
• According to Annette Lawson, author of Adultery, published in 1989 by Basic Books. "The various researchers arrive at a general consensus…suggesting that above one-quarter to about one-half of married women have at least one lover after they are married in any given marriage. Married men probably still stray more often than married women—perhaps from 50 percent to 65 percent by the age of forty." According to Maggie Scarf, author of Intimate Partners, first published in 1987 by Random House, re-issued in 1996 by Ballentine.
• "Most experts do consider the 'educated guess' that at the present time some 50 to 65 percent of husbands and 45 to 55 percent of wives become extramaritally involved by the age of 40 to be a relatively sound and reasonable one." According to Peggy Vaughan, author of The Monogamy Myth, first published in 1989 by Newmarket Press (third edition published 2003).
• Conservative infidelity statistics estimate that “60 percent of men and 40 percent of women will have an extramarital affair. These figures are even more significant when we consider the total number of marriages involved, since it's unlikely that all the men and women having affairs happen to be married to each other. If even half of the women having affairs (or 20 percent) are married to men not included in the 60 percent having affairs, then at least one partner will have an affair in approximately 80 percent of all marriages. With this many marriages affected, it's unreasonable to think affairs are due only to the failures and shortcomings of individual husbands or wives."

Note that the above adultry statistics of the prevalence of affairs were made more than a decade ago; so based on changes in society during the intervening years, the current percentage of the population who have had affairs is probably somewhat HIGHER. For instance, the continuing increase of women in the workplace and the increase of women having affairs on the Internet means that the numbers for women having affairs is probably similar to those for men—about 60%.

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Dont' now. Why do girls cheat?

 

that makes me not want to get married

 

maybe....less choosy?????

 

Up to 30% of father's are raising kids that really aren't their's; and don't know it.

 

Common Reasons Men Cheat: (Not in any order of relevance)

Girlfriend doesn't put out enough -- probably number one reason

Girlfriend uses sex to manipulate a man (withholds sex as "punishment", gives sex as "reward") -- men get tired of it because it ties into "girlfriend doesn't put out enough"

Girlfriend is naggy/high maintainance

Girlfriend is too "emotional/quiet/distant/complicated"

Someone flamed me for this viewpoint, and it just makes sense. Okay:

Women will sleep with a man over the whole "alpha male", and so long as a man maintians that, he is insured a supply of sex. But as soon as he faulters in that, women get turned off and find someone else.
Women will have *long term* relationships with men for the "protector/provider/security" thing. A woman will be faithful so long as the man provides that, but also with the whole "emotional attentive/excitement", etc, whatever. As soon as the man faulters in any of that, the woman starts looking for other prospects, and she does this before she even realizes it.

A man will sleep with a woman because he wants to. And he'll keep going back for more and more as long as she's putting out.
A man will get in a long-term relationship with a woman because she is a nice girl, not a slut, but gives a steady supply of sex and will satisfy him in the bedroom. However when this faulters, the guy starts looking for someone else.

So just like guys know that they need to get social/financial power, and keep it, in order to keep a woman, I think women need to realize that they need to get sexuality, and keep it, in order to keep a man.

If I was in a relationship and it went "dry" I wouldn't stick around for a very long time. I don't think any woman should expect that. Just as a man uses his body to go to work, I think women need to realize that it's an equal exchange thing.

 

did you know that 68% of statistics are made up?

i was just gonna come in here and ask "why do girls cheat?"
but it has already been done
monogamy isn't human nature
at the base of it we are animals, a small link above simians
i believe * in my opinion and all that jazz* men cheat more than woman do because of the basic urge to spread the seed
there's a lot of things that could be posed as theories as to why people cheat
some people seem to think that it happens more frequently now than in the past, but maybe it's just more out in the open...

simple thing about cheating, you can let it get to you and have it tear you down at your soul, or you can get over it
that sounds harsh only because i lack the social skill commonly refereed to as tact

every situation is different, i don't know yours...i'm not going to pry or say anything in regards to it, that's your deal...but if it's a problem you're having more than one occasion maybe it's you (again sorry no tact whatsoever)
but if it's just the one, maybe it hurts now, but it will only keep hurting if you keep picking at the wound....move on, let yourself heal and find a better man that won't cheat
they are out there

 

Maybe men do "cheat" more, but:

80% of divorces in USA are initiated by women.

 

Because they have a lazy, ignorant chicks for girlfriends, who doesn`t now what exactly to do and when exactly to do it.

But overall that question is stupid , because every single person has a reason of his own. Different from all others, coz everybody are in different situations and breakups happen!

 

I knew this chick one time, who was so super hot, but she was a prude, and her boyfriend cheated on her because they didn't have sex for almost two months, and when she found out she was like "How could he cheat on *me*! I'm so hot!"