Why do chicS mention they have a bf..

.. then flirt anyways @ the bar? I swear i could have went for a kiss and this girl would've returned it.

What's up with that?

Do some of you chics lie just to not look desperate?

I have another friend/chic who tells me of her bf but then always rushing me up for conversation.

Do you sometimes 'accidentally' say you have a bf? Are these girls seeing if I'm "man enough" to not care about their bf?


Shit's weird, breh. I'm not taking that comment @ a bar seriously anymore.

 

We possibly lie so that there isn't a threat that we want a relationship. Men run from that.

 

I think it's more of a cockteasing strategy.

I really don't buy the theory that women are soooo concerned about looking desperate or being called sluts. If it were so, they'd act less desperate and slutty.

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Edit: Also, a boyfriend or husband is mandatory for women. I don't think I've ever met a single woman in my life. To pick up women is to wrestle them out of another man's arms.

Boyfriend/husband may mean a number of things, from a fuck buddy, to a doormat, to a sugar daddy, to a cuckold, to a celebrity womanizer, to a gay friend, to a friendzoned beta, to a guy who gave her two calls at the most. So, I would've just moved in for the kiss if I were you. Other people's relationships are not your responsibility.

 

It's a matter of getting men to relax with us and not worry we are scamming for a relationship.

 

Maybe they say it to let you know they are up for fun but won't take it seriously.

 

I'd think it'd be a warning to the guy to not try or say anything inappropriate

 

To the OP:

One interesting aspect of all this to think about is that a woman may already have used you/your name as a 'boyfriend' without your knowing. It's very likely.

I know I have been said to be 'the boyfriend' without my consent.

 

ironically it makes you look more unavailable. I really had no clear idea if this chic wanted to have fun, flirt more, less etc.

 

Unavailable is hot. It means a man can get us to fool around with no strings attached. They like that more than being threatened she might like him too much.

 

It's not like she could have told you what she wanted, or anything. Now, that's a WHACKY idea.

 

yes, pull out a written step by step illustrated map so that way neither person gets to have a personality.

 

She says she has a boyfriend because she probably does. If she's out at a bar flirting with you she's probably wants to flirt and act single without actually having to be single. She puts her boyfriend there as a boundary so she can flirt and have fun without taking it to the next level.

 

Ugh... the games! I'm glad I'm not playing in that scene.

 

Sometimes friendliness comes off as flirting, probably due to alcohol intake and atmosphere.

I don't go to bars where people go for attention or to pick someone up. The place I go we all dress in our normal clothes and headbang or start a moshpit, so I can't really say, as I've never had to tell anyone if I'm single or not. But its more of a place for outcasts and weirdos who don't dig mainstream music but still want a local, probably why its called 'The black sheep'.

The times I have been to the more mainstream bars I've just felt uncomfortable and haven't really enjoyed it. Too many men trying to pick up girls and girls falling over in dresses that show half their ass and shoes higher than they can walk in.

 

What's with all the women hating threads as of lately?

 

I've been seeing them for a while. Someone should start male bashing

 

go for it. I wasn't bashing in this thread.

 

My question is, why do some women NOT tell you they have a boyfriend and yet flirt, have lunch with you, IM, text and what not.

Oh and when you do find out they start acting different and more distant.

 

men run from wasting their time with someone who's already taken.

this.