Why Did He Give Me False Hope And Hide That He Has A Girlfriend?

When I met this guy, he was single.
He showed interest and we texted and hangout.
However, along the way it seemed like he was losing interest.
So I stopped contacting him.
But he contacted me back and invited me to hangout with his close buddies.

Just yesterday we went out. and today I suddenly found out from his ig that he is attached.
(apparently it has been a few months)
One of his friends even thought we were together. I feel like they didn't know he has a gf as well.

I mean if he doesn't like me he could have just left me alone?
I have no intention of sabotaging his r/s and I am going to draw my distance.
But I just feel why did he give me false hope? It kinds hurts.

 

what's an ig?

i assume he was looking to upgrade. or maybe he just wanted a fling. either way, he sounds like kind of a dick.

 

Instagram

 

Yes, basically through social media. Thanks for your reply.

 

lots of moron dudes have one gf to bring home for mamas approval and they have another much more fun and usually prettier girl [you] to actually have a good time with

it sucks....many girls know this going in or at least they snoop social media to nip it in the bud[like you did]

good luck

 

I hope you don't misunderstand. I'm the quiet and shy type with not much dating experience. Perhaps it is precisely because I am not fun enough.
I believe It is normal to "stalk" the social media of the person we like, sometimes it is just to find out more about their life and interest.
But I get your point and yes this is very true in many cases as well. Perhaps this is just how the game works and I should have known better.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts.

 

Some guys are just dicks I'm afraid and he clearly falls into this category.

There will be others for you out there so move forward with dignity and someone else will come along who will be more suitable

 

Hi wonder, welcome to hip!

Some people just like their bread butter both sides!

Don't take it seriously, he will most likely hurt too. Let's be honest, he never got a new girlfriend and dumped you! I think you dumping him is gonna hurt him...

Get yourself out there, and have some fun! Move forward, a cheat is never worth it!

Good luck

 

Thanks F6C. Yes, agree that I shall "move forward with dignity". Thanks so much for the kind words. Certainly hope so.

 

Hi Morrow, nice to meet u in Hip. Thanks
Ya, I guess I am taking it too seriously due to my lack of experience in dating issues.
I guess sometimes it is just inevitable to get hurt as we grow and learn ya.
I'm not sure if this is gonna hurt him..just thought it could have been better if he didn't contact me back.
yup! I shall take it as an experience and move forward, let my hair down & have fun )
Lastly, I really appreciate all your advices!

 

You will without a doubt.
.
He'll be the one regretting things when you're with someone else and in 12th you won't even remember his name.

Not all guys are dicks, but some are and hopefully your next boyfriend will be better for you and have no girlfriends!

You're young - enjoy life and above so else have FUN!

 

the encouragement and reassurance from you guys make me feel so much better.

Thanks for taking the time to respond to my thread and the sincere advices.

You know I just wonder if he even likes me, even though I know that it is pointless or perhaps even dumb to be thinking about it.

Pointless as he is already attached and dumb because if he likes me obviously he would have chosen to be with me.

"Not all guys are dicks, but some are and hopefully your next boyfriend will be better for you and have no girlfriends!"

Hahaha yes I see one nice guy here already and yuppp!

((

 

Why thank you kind lady.

Always happy to lend an ear and feel free to PM if you want to chat further