Why cant i cum from sex?

Discussion in 'The Orgasmic Experience' started by LadyD, Apr 29, 2007.

  1. LadyD

    LadyD Member

    Hello,

    Im new here but i need some advice from you all....

    For some reason it takes me agessss to come and its driving my up the wall, my boyfriend has a perfect cock and yet it still doesnt happen, i was single for a while before him so i did use my vibrator alot, how can i make myself sensitive again?

    Also he makes me very very wet, even more so than any other boyfriend ive had before could this be a reason that i cant come cos there isnt enough friction etc?

    HELP!!!!!
     
  2. Allonym

    Allonym cheesecake slut

    most women dont cum from penetration alone
    oral sex, manual stimulation or a vibrator are all good solutions. a nd 2/3 of them can be used during intercourse as well (manual and a small vibe)
     
  3. _jane_

    _jane_ Member

    Me too, I don't come so easily when I have sex (with masturbation is easier but not so strong), so I use to rub or get rubbed my clit and fingered my sex while I get it in the anus, or to get rubbed or fingered my anus while I get fucked in my sex. I don't have a vibrator and I don't like to use object when I am with another person, but I think it will work greatly! ;) Oh, the atmosphere, and even submission and dirty-talks can work too! :D
     
  4. LadyD

    LadyD Member

    well its weird that i posted this thread and then last night he made me cum, lovely it was too, ive found that when im not as rediculously wet i cum easier cos of the friction!!
    wooooooo!!!!!!!
     
  5. LadyD

    LadyD Member

    and again! yippeeeeee
     
  6. Cutted

    Cutted Cutted

    PM the G Spot Master (me) for personal instruction....
     
  7. ButtonGear

    ButtonGear Member

    I sincerely apologize for the repitition (I have posted similar replies in other forums), but I always marvel when women think they SHOULD climax from stimulation alone (sure sume lucky ones do, but I think it's not the "norm") ...

    Let me explain my point ...

    First, it should be understood that the structure of the clitoris is ROUGHLY anologous to the structure of the penis (they originate from the same tissues in utero).

    Secondly, remember that the ENTIRE structure of the clitoris is NOT just the part you see or feel at the top end of the vulva; it goes MUCH deeper and has a VERY long shaft (yep, pretty much just like a penis). The "shaft" of the clitoris runs down the "sides," but slightly away from of the vagina, as it were.



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    Expecting to reach orgasm from penetration alone would be almost like saying, "Guys, can you orgasm by stimulating the lower shaft and not going anywhere near the head of the penis?" And the answer, I suspect would be VERY similar to to what you would hear (on average) with most women: "occasionally, but it's rare."

    Ask your guy to try it sometime: he should try to masturbate by stimulating only the lowest part of the shaft, just above the scrotum -- and be sure not to pull to tightly downward as to cause any stimulation to the glans penis or surrounding area. I doubt he'd orgasm either. I sure can't.

    Women who can reach orgasm through penetration alone are (in most cases) likely having their clitorises (clitorii?) sort of "accidentally" lightly stimulated by the connective tissues (labia and clitoral prepuce, shaft, curae, etc.). In other words, the object penetrating the vagina (penis, fingers, toy, etc.) is "tugging on the curtains," which just barely - almost inperceptably - stimulates the "head" of the clitoris. Yes, the "body" of the clitoris (shaft, curae, etc.) are ALSO involved in the stimulation; and penetration definitely helps (with many women), but just like in men, the "real' action is near the head of the organ, and in most cases on the underside of the head.

    The G-spot is a "helper" area. Stimulation of the G-spot alone, without any clitoral involvement, would be about as enjoyable as a prostate check-up is to most males.

    And just like men prefer different levels of stimulation at different times during sex (or masturbation), there is no one type of stimulation that will "fill the bill" for women during sex. It really is sort of a dance you figure out as you go.

    But NEVER feel inferior that mere penetration does not produce orgasm; that's just silly.
     
  8. ""Guys, can you orgasm by stimulating the lower shaft and not going anywhere near the head of the penis?""

    Every guy I know can. What's masturbation except the stimulation of the shaft with your hand? :p
     
  9. England

    England Banned

    Your boyfriend doesn't go down on you? :H
     
  10. buttrfly)i(

    buttrfly)i( Member

    i have that problem....but i have heard that orgasms from just having sex are much different than a orgasm originated at the clitoris. is this true?
     
  11. LadyD

    LadyD Member

    Yeah course he does England!

    where are u from?
     
  12. England

    England Banned

    Um... England :H

    Nah.. I live in Blackpool at the moment. I did live in Nottingham but I've moved up here on a trial. The ladies are much better up North than the South too, I have got to say.
     
  13. wiggy

    wiggy Bitch

    Lies all lies
     
  14. England

    England Banned

    It's true. The women up here are much better looking than the Southern gals. Yeah there are some gorgeous Southern women but the North has much of a higher ratio. I'm living here for 2 weeks and if I like it I'll stay though I'm originally from here anyway, if not then I'll go back to Notts.
     
  15. LadyD

    LadyD Member

    Yep its true, im from manchester!

    haha joke!

    Blackpool is dreadful though go somewhere nicer than that!
     
  16. England

    England Banned

    I'm not living in Blackpool itself. I'm living in the Fyldes. Between Blackpool and Preston. It's a Preston post code but it's referred to as Blackpool.
     
  17. LadyD

    LadyD Member

    ah right i see,

    i take it you didnt get tickets for radio ones big weekend then?
     
  18. England

    England Banned

    No I don't listen to radio one. I can't stand the chit chat radio stations :)

    I can't stand Sundays, roll on FRIDAY!! :H
     
  19. LadyD

    LadyD Member

    I hate sundays too, ive not even bothered getting dressed!

    what do u do then? as a job i mean!
     

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