Why can’t I fully ejaculate off my girlfriend oral sex

I been with my girlfriend 4 years and for some reason I can’t fully ejaculate when she gives me oral sex. For some reason only a little bit comes out. I don’t understand why because I fully ejaculate when we have sexual intercourse.

I posted it here to see if any other men had this problem and how to deal with it. The oral sex is good but for some reason only a little bit comes out when I ejaculate. For some reason when I get close to ejaculating it’s like my body forces me to hold it and only a little bit comes out. How do I fix this problem so I can fully ejaculate?

Me and my girlfriend are both 34

 

Wouldn't know for sure other than everyone is different, in porn it always seem like a girl can suck on a guy just a little and he blows all over the place. Even when I was in my early 20's I couldn't do that, in my entire life I've cum on just a straight bj, nothing else being done, maybe twice. I love everything about it but it almost never stimulates me enough to make me cum...

 

Is she orally "worshipping" your cock? I'm talking about a long, slow, sloppy, ball sucking, lip smacking, deep throating blow job. I shoot my biggest loads when I'm sucked like this for 45-60 minutes.

 

It takes me 20 minutes or more to cum. She does deepthroat but has a bad gag reflex. She chokes so it’s usually a lot of drool because of that. She licks the balls sometimes.

 

What's wrong with 20 minutes? When I suck a guys cock I worship and edge his cock to prolong his orgasm. I like sucking for 40-60 minutes which most times has him begging to cum. When I feel his first squirt of creamy cum shoot into my mouth I deep throat his cock so he can drain the rest of his load down my throat.

 

Be happy with what you have. Hopefully things will improve for both of you. I'm 50 and have gotten hundreds or beyond from many different women. I've yet to have a single orgasm, not even a little. What I don't understand is that it feels so damn good. My stomach and legs are sore from jerking and twitching so much, and my eyes constantly rolling back in my head. She's a cock greedy little slut and LOVES to suck cock, not because she makes me feel good, but because she simply loves cock buried in her throat. My pleasure is a great bonus lol. I've been really close a few times but that's usually around the 45 minute mark as she can't use her muscles anymore and is always apologetic as she lays her head down to rest. I'd be happy with a partial orgasm lol. We're getting me a good vibrating butt plug very soon and will see if that helps.

 

I know what you mean, I love everything about getting head, but it's so rare that I will cum from it as to be nonexistent. I used to have a girlfriend that would stroke my cock until I was ready to cum then she would go down on me so I would cum in her mouth, then she would swallow my load. I was in my very early 20's then, I'm not sure that would work today, and anyway my wife doesn't like cum in her mouth...

 

My ex didn't like anything even close to my cock in her mouth. Found anything fluid-like absolutely gross. but I did get her to suck on the tip for almost a minute once when she was drunk lol. And that was THE ONLY time her mouth touched it in our 10 years together. Some just don't like it. And I fully respect that. But man was that a long time without a blowjob. And from her to my current cock hungry wife that can never get enough, what a change

 

To each his own I guess. I couldn't marry a woman that didn't suck cock. Even when I was dating if she didn't suck cock I'd end it. I need that in a woman.

 

My wife will suck me, but no cumming in her mouth. I had some playmates when we did the lifestyle though that loved to suck cock. I came super close to shooting my load with them, maybe because the girl absolutely loved doing it and was really good at it.
Or maybe it was the fact that they really loved doing it helped turn me on, IDK...

 

I can't explain it but the fact is, getting a blowjob simply doesn't turn me on enough to make me cum.
I mean, I love everything about it, watching the girl take my cock in her mouth, the way it feels, it's all awesome.
But as a rule, it won't stimulate me enough to make me cum and I know that was a big disappointment for my playmates. Being uncut, my cock head is super sensitive and because of that, there's a pretty fine line between something that feels really good and something that's painful, so maybe that's part of it too.
All in all, while I love the blowjob experience, I simply need other things going on to get me off...

 

Did you ever have this problem with previous lovers??

 

I'd say it's not a physical thing but a psychological one. I had a similar issue with my current wife, then girlfriend, where she was quite inexperienced and was brought up being told sex was bad. Needless to say she was not very experimental and had a few hang ups when it came to sex. So as she opened up we started experimenting a bit more and she stated giving me blowjobs more frequently, however, she was always adamant that she didn't like cum and refused to let me cum in her mouth. So everyone she gave me a blowjob I'd be nervous about cumming in her mouth. While it felt good, I could never cum. Eventually she began to like giving me bjs. When one night said she was going to make me cum in her mouth. So she began sucking as usual and it felt great, but try as she might, I couldn't cum. You see, I still had thoughts swimming through my head of what if she didn't like it? What if she gags? What if I taste bad to her? What if she stops giving me blowjobs? So while I had the go ahead, the anxiety stop me from accomplishing my mission. She eventually gave up a bit dejected. I explained to her what was going on in my head and she said she was sure she wanted to do it and that I should relax... So away she goes again... 5 minutes later I'm about to explode, I softly say "I'm about to cum!" she just acknowledges me with a small nod and I unload a tsunami in her sucking mouth. It felt like heaven and just like that her and my anxiety about cumming in her mouth disappeared. We now both love it.

 

I guess I never understood that someone can't cum from a blowjob. I get so turned on by it, I am usually trying hard not to cum (yet) just to enjoy it longer. I let go when I can't hold back anymore....or she decides it's time...it is the best and it's always a lot.

I'm sure you're just holding it back so you don't ejaculate much, maybe because you're psyched out that in her mouth is unpleasant for her. Maybe a solution is her actually telling you to let it all go, that she does like it and she wants you to unload.

You know the point where you are going to ejaculate....you're squeezing strong on your PC muscles to make it better and harder....you feel it reaching the peak - then you just let go and cum. So instead of squeezing at that point, try the opposite, push. Practice letting it go, yourself, or when she gives you a handjob. Relax and just let it happen.

Relax and just let it happen - funny, I think I said that when someone was hesitant about cum in her mouth....but she got over it quickly.

 

Interesting, I've always tightened my PC's during all types of sex. Including jacking off. For me it makes the head much more sensitive. If I'm within 5 seconds of orgasm and I relax, it simply stops it dead. Then start all over again. I've never EVER tried it relaxed or pushing to let it go. Something I'm going to have to try the next few times. Would be great to have my first ever orgasm from a BJ!!

 

It's the best.

 

Maybe she is doing it wrong. There is technique involved. For me it's easy because I enjoy oral sex so much. It's been my experience that it's important for the girl to show that she is enjoying the act. Maybe you're not sure she really wants you to cum inside her mouth like a volcano. She needs to show you she wants you by her facial expressions, by how she uses her lips and tongue to extract every drop of the delicious fluid. In my opinion, once you realize that she wants everything you can give me, trust me you will ejaculate. And a lot.

 

Thanks. She's been wanting the biggest load I can give her lol. She definitely loves to do it. it's usually a greedy priority of hers, and I never argue lol. Who knows, I could have a mental block that it's never going to happen after 52 years? If it doesn't, no biggie. Feels awesome and I always blow during our hot naughty intercourse lol.

 

Nice to see you again Angela....you always have a way with words...