Why are you Gay?

l was just born gay.

 

I don't understand gays at all, lesbians I can understand. I find the female body so beautiful but, dudes are just repulsive. I just can't understand why a man would be gay.

 

For some of us, it is not a choice... My aunt actually wrote me an email, and I replied to her....

"Hey Honey,

I have recently heard something that concerns me. I also know that you have given your heart to Jesus. You know, Courtney, He designed you with a special purpose and the enemy, the Devil, will come at you with both guns blazing to keep you from what God wants you to do. He is a very powerful enemy and can make us feel and think things that are contrary to Gods plan. God's Word is very clear, read Romans 1:26-27. This is just one of the many verses in the Bible that says God did not create this type of lifestyle. It is the lie of the Devil. God created a life for you filled with joy and blessing, not guilt and shame. Pray and ask God to show you the truth and walk in that truth. He will guide you every step of the way and know that I am keeping you in my prayers daily. Remember, God loves you - He's crazy about you and has so much for you. Let go of any doubt you have - just give it to God and let it go. He knows what you're thinking anyway so just share all your feelings with him. If you need to talk - I'm here and I love you tons.

Aunt Kate"

She obviously doesn't know much about me... But this is what I wrote her back, today actually...

"Hello, Kate.
I have been thinking very deeply about what you wrote me about a year ago, and I believe it was not at all the correct step in dealing with this "situation." First off, I wanted to say that you (Christians) believe Jesus or God created all of us in his own special way and purpose, and if he designed me with a special purpose, why did he create me this way? I did not choose to live this way, this is not a choice. I was born this way, and if you can not accept if for what it really is, then so be it. Also, I just wanted to add that homosexuality has been going on for centuries, before christ was even thought of. And no matter how hard anyone tries to change me, it's not going to happen. This is what I was born as, and this is what I will live and die as. And you said in your email: quote, "God created a life for you filled with joy and blessing, not guilt and shame." I wanted to point out that I am living a life filled with joy, and who in this world said I was living in guilt and shame? I am proud of who I am, and what I've done. It was very hard for me to come out, and I believe if everyone realized how hard it is for homosexuals to live in this country, they wouldn't criticize their own people, just because we love differently. I would like you to look at the reality of this all... Ignorant people, not accepting other human beings, because of a certain lifestyle, because of the way they love... LOVE. It kind of reminds me of segregation, just because people were black, they weren't treated equally. I think people treating homosexuals in this matter is not right. And people should stop thinking what is right in their own minds and look out and see what is happening to our world. Just take a walk in someone elses shoes. I don't think many people would survive the difficulty of life if it was different. That is all I have to say. Thank you for reading my thoughts and input.

Courtney."

So that's about it...

 

Courtney, I think you're a very brave and mature girl. Don't let ANYONE deny you to choose your own lifestyle! Be yourself, and you will always find people going the same direction as you. You deserve a big hug!

 

Why does one like caramel pudding? Why does one hate tuna fish salad?

 

that's like asking why would anyone be entirely straight. ok...sort of..not really. Just a thought.

 

Courtney~ Rock on girl! Live your life the way you want to because after all IT IS YOUR LIFE. People don't understand that. If I want to sleep w/ a girl that's what I'll do because it makes ME happy - I don't care about others opionions on it. And you shouldn't have to explain it to anyone. So Courtney, I give you mad props for BEING YOURSELF!!!!!

 

So was I! And that's the way I am.

 

Courtney--way to go, babe. Your letter is respectful but firm. Somewhat unusual qualities.

 

Jester, if someone could give a definitive answer to this then they'd make a fortune. As for me, as far back as I can remember, I've felt more comfortable around my guy friends than "girl" friends. I was born this way, not a choice, but born or perhaps something is miswired.. dunno.

This is meant with no disrespect intended what so ever, but you aren't gay or even bi so you have no frame of reference to understand what or how I feel about the male body, just as I don't understand how you can "only" enjoy the female form. Don't get the wrong impression, I find some women (like Katie Holms) very pretty, but they don't do anything physically for me.

as for your last post, it is mostly physical.. just as your's is to womens

 

Me too ... and the THOUGHT of something else makes me want to... well, dare I say hurl ?

 

o my god. this is stupid. seriously, no one choses to gay. WHY ARE YOU STRAIGHT? Its how people are. If you're looking for answers you're not gonna get the ones you want believe me.
You can analyse it as much as you want but in the end you're going to be disappointed because you'll see that everyone in here is gonna tell you that they didn't choose to be gay and for god sakes they're not doing to 'prove a point.'
seriously, this is crap. sorr if i sound like a bitch but i'm just pissed off about this add that shows two guys kissing and all these fuck-wits are slamming it.
~Moro

 

Well, its not really a silly question when you think deeper into it. How many of us have questioned ourselves about why we are gay? I know i have. Its hard not to in a world where others draw so many questions to it.

All i can tell you are the reasons that haven't made me gay. I didn't have a bad childhood experience with men, i'm not proving a point to society, nor am i confused. In fact the thought of kissing a man doesn't disgust me either but i can safley say it does nothing for me sexually. I know some pretty amazing guys both in looks and personality and yet I feel nothing but feelings of friendship for them.

When we see a person we're attracted to a hormone called PEA is released into the brain and has an effect similar to that of a drug. In gay people this hormone is only released when they are attracted to someome of the same sex. A person cannot control the chemical reactions that happen naturally in the body. Why PEA acts differently in some people science can only guess at right now so the real answer is that no one can prove why this happens. Although recent research does seem to back up the fact that most people do not choose to be gay and this is present from birth. This is also evident within the animal kingdom.

I really dont know why i'm gay but i know i have always been gay.

emotional reasons:
1. i'm sexually attracted to women

physical reasons:
1. i'm sexually attracted to women

 

Why are you Heterosexual
How do you know you are Heterosexual
When did you first realise you were definitely Heterosexual
Have you ever wondered if you weren't Heterosexual
Do you consider Heterosexuality to be based on biological drive to reproduce and if so then why isn't polygamy (ie mate with more people, more chance of reproduction) the norm in society.
Do you consider Heterosexuality to be a choice or something your born as ????????????????????????????

 

Well why do hetro's perfer sex with opposite sex?? Cause they were born that way.
I have always been gay, l knew l was as a very young child and I didn't even know what sex was then.

This just sounds like a hetro asking a stupid farking question to me......

 

Because I mince!

 

Sorry, Jester, but you're only asking for controversy with your question. By insisting on asking it, you run the risk of provoking the obvious counter-question, "What made you straight? Why are you attracted only to people of the opposite sex as you are?"

If you're not prepared to answer that latter question, then you can't expect to get an answer to your own.

The fact is -- no matter how much the anti-gay Right tries to spin it -- sexual orientation is as innate a fact of nature as our gender.

You say that you can understand why people who are bisexual are they way they are -- and even admit to having a bisexual streak of your own, however latent it may be. So why do you have a problem with people having an exclusive sexual attraction to people of their own gender? By repeatedly asking why, you unwittingly reveal yourself to others as having a problem with it -- and, by extension, an insecurity about your own orientation.

This is especially prevelant among young males under 30 years of age. I know, because I went through it. Today, as I approach my 52nd birthday in April, I've been comfortably out of the closet for 23 years -- the last 12 as bisexual.

-- Skeeter

 

Dear Insanejester, this all works for YOU, but not for everybody. It's all very subjective. Thank God we're all different, makes the world a much more interesting pace to be!

 

Sounds to me that you're insecure about your own sexuality, Duck. It's no secret that straight males have the hardest time underatanding gay men, even as they express no problem with -- and are even fascinated by -- lesbians.

That unease is a dead giveaway of insecurity among straight males -- especially those under 30 -- of their own sexuality.

So I suggest that you take a good hard look at YOURSELF before you voice your discomfort with gay men. For contrary to popular belief, homophobia is an irrational fear that ONESELF may have homoerotic feelings.

-- Skeeter

 

Just out of curiosity (I'm the same age, and also a bisexual): what do you mean with this? In other words: as "what" did you come out of the closet between 1982 and 1993? :&