Why are some women sadistic and cruel ?

I would really like to know why some women are sadistic and cruel ?

Why is it that some women like to totally dominate, control, manipulate and flirt with men even in a relationship ?

What do they get from behaving like this ?

Is it power ?

Is it some ego trip ?

Why do they do it ?

Is it fixable ?

I recently met a women and she is a terrible flirt and try to manipulate me and control me.

If I was kind, considerate and truly loving would she eventually change or is it impossible to change her ?

She is also narcissistic ...

Do I get out of this relationship or persist ?

 

I would get out. You can't change a person unless they want to change themselves.

I get the sense that a majority of the time, girls that are like this have huge amounts of baggage they carry with them from either how they grew up, or from past relationships.

1. Sometimes it's trust issues on their part, and these "games" are walls they've put up.


2. Other times it's just their personality, perhaps they since birth were just selfish beautiful cruel people. (Blame their genes that form temperament)

3. They're not looking for romance or love, they're gold diggers, and in this instance flirting = job. It's not personal for them, but rather business and any guy who falls for their tricks isn't worth any real value.

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Think with your head bro. A man who thinks with his head, and is confident about what he can offer to a woman and isn't restricted by thinking with his junk is on par with any woman's tricks.

 

Why are some women sadistic, cruel, and power obsessed?

1. There is a selfish asshole gene. Selfish assholes are successful at reproducing. The selfish asshole gene is often passed on to both male and female offspring.

2. They are generally encouraged to be power obsessed by society.

I don't see what the big problem is with flirting though, unless she is trying to make you jealous.

In any case, sounds like she is not the one for you.

 

I would not waste a minute of my time with someone like this! Not sure why you are? Don't hope people are suddenly going to change. She is already showing you who she is and that is not your kind of person move on.

 

Pretty much.

 

because some women are like that!

 

these attributes you mentioned... would you consider them negatice or describe them with negative terms if it had been a man?

often times

women who are intelligent: "manipulative"
women who are ambitious: "crazy"
women with good self esteem: "narcissistic"
women who speak out: "bitch"

 

get out now and save yourself a lot of hassle in the long run..find someone else that is more compatible

 

In all fairness, some men are too.

 

often times



women who receive video music awards: "slut"
women who have their own reality tv show: "attention whore"
women who try to order chicken nuggets from drive-thru: "crazy bitch on crack"

 

No I don't see a direct causation there because I know many who are the former but not the latter that you have in quotes.

As for the woman who speak out part, what makes them a bitch is very specific to their line of argument in the moment and if they show a pattern of selfishness. If a woman has a very valid point of argument that makes logical sense, then they're speaking out or voicing their opinion is very much, or should be, welcomed.

 

I've known some narcissists in my time. I have NEVER seen them change. I'm not sure they can change. Not being a psychologist or having studied the condition, I know that there are many "cures" for many conditions, some of which try to merely change a condition through logical conditioning and others which delve into the psyche looking for the reasons for a condition. Blah-blah-blah. Don't waste your time if she makes you feel bad. You--fish--sea. Do it.

 

Very true.

And often times, NOT. Women who make use of sex to manipulate men are absolutely epidemic, and if you deny that, you're quite simply a hypocrite. Just go out any regular Friday night and watch it happen right in front of your nose.

I'm not saying you do that, I'm not saying all women do that (NAWALT!), I am saying a fuckload of women do that.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aY05HQHYvvA"]Bill Burr "Epidemic of gold digging whores" - YouTube

Sometimes a cigar is just a cigar.

 

Anyway, on topic:

OP, you might not realize how naggy your thread title is. Who cares? Let bitches, be bitches. Worry about what you do, not what other people do. Changing people is for losers.

You're doing the exact male equivalent of the chick who dates the cheating jerk and tries to tame him into a doormat. Doesn't work. People don't owe you nice anything.

The ones who are in your league, will meet you halfway.

 

Agreed, it can be very hard to find the right girl for you who doesn't play games like the ones above.

And the market also shrinks I think as you get older too because those of your age group are settling down, in closed relationships most of the time; off the market.

 

why are some women sadistic and cruel? i think it boils down to some sort of mental issues. the same reason some men are sadistic and cruel.

 

Thanks for the advice you sound like you have a lot more life experience than I do.

I've never really had any issues with most of the women that I have dated so this to me is new.

Most people said same thing to me including my sister who says this is a pain game and to get out and move on.

Thanks !!

GB.

 

I'm beginning to think your right.
Thanks.

GB.

 

If you have my mocked up as some kinda bastard I'm not I just think some people get screwed up and not much maybe I can do to solve this problem.

I must confess there are times when I look into her eyes and its scary. LOL.

 

ok.