why are girls like this? what should i be doing?

i always thought that if i was good in bed, worked to improve my work situation, and worked hard and tried to do as much good as possible and be a good person then a girl would appreciate what i did for her. only to realise that this was completely wrong. apparently i needed to be exciting and fun, which seems to translate into being the sort of guy who deals drugs and gets into fights and things like that.

it seems to get a girl you need to quit your job, go on the dole, look like a dag, and waste your life doing drugs.

not to be sexist but do girls have rocks in their heads?

why would they leave someone who really cared to go off with a loser?

i know im not the best looking guy in the world but i dont think im that bad.

what should i be doing?

 

Find someone who appreciates you. You are apparently dating girls who like unemployed druggies, when you should be dating girls who like employed nice guys. Maybe I am over simplifying things, but that is what it boils down to.

Maybe your girl wasn't ready for the type of relationship you wanted. She might not have been ready to settle down. Needed to "sew some wild oats" as the saying goes? Have a little fun? Unemployed druggies are a lot of fun, at least until the rent is due.
And she might grow out of it... but I wouldn't wait around for her. In a couple years she might be ready, but she isn't now.

For the record, there are girls who really dig the "employed nice guy". They are usually really well adjusted, and aren't trying to piss off their parents.

The whole thing isn't a reflection on you. You are the good guy, remember? She is the one with the problem. You are probably doing most everything right... they just aren't the things she wants right now. Hope you find a girl better suited for you. Better luck next time!

 

yeah definitely once girls grow up a bit they are looking for men like you, and avoiding unemployed druggies at all costs... but usually younger girls who aren't looking to settle down will go for men they know they wont be with for long. or at least that's what i've seen a lot

don't worry, you'll find somebody to appreciate your wonderful self

 

What should you do? Well, to start with, stop even considering the idea of sculpting your personality and lifestyle to attract women. Be who you are if you want to attract the women who are right for you. Sounds like you're doing OK. I know it's frustrating.

 

Evidently you have been dating girls, you need to date women. A woman appreciates a good man. Don't shop in the kiddie section, go over to womans world. The ladies are fine.

 

funny thing is i am an unemployed druggie on the dole (but i dress nicely ) and do i pull the chicks? no... i need a job so it probably has nothing to do with who you are but who you want... some times i just dont know but it is funny...

 

I think that you need to have a balance of work and play. I know I don't want to date a drug dealer, but I like guys that are open minded enough to party when timing is right. I don't want somone who is unemployed, but I don't want a guy who works all the time and never has time for fun.

Everything in moderation.

 

You're a wimp.

Young women like bikies and drug dealers and other "bad boys".

When they hit their 30s then they're looking to "settle down" with some accountant.

 

That's excellent advice.

 

Your first paragraph sounds like something that has been programmed/brainwashed into your mind by society... Which translates to more= better. If i get a better job, better education, better bla bla bla i will be more successful with women..etc.

Exciting and fun.. i can see where your going with this. Try to offer challenges, instead of being so available all the time.

The truth is what society says about how to get women is completely untrue, such as being nice or buying them stuff is what society says to do.


The kind of man that most women dream of isnt a man who is a product of society... there is alot more to this and if u want the deeper meaning feel free to pm me sometime, ok?

Later

 

look im not a boring accountant. ive got a crappy job making pies and I play in a psychedelic rock band!

 

Perhaps you should stop dwelling on the issue and let her make her own mistakes. Perhaps she coudlnt deal with the fact that small time problems became big time arguments.

 

UnspokenThings: Oh, you have a crappy job. That makes sense.