Who pays?

So I've been dating this girl for a few weeks, things are going well but I pay for most everything. She is 5 years older than me (26 and 31) and she owns her own place. I can understand the first few dates I'd be paying, since I'm the guy, but should it continue that way? And it's not like she tries to pay and I don't let her, she doesn't even try to pay...I'm not sure how to tactfully approach this, but I can't really afford to be paying for her dinners, drinks and movies like this.

We make about the same amount of money btw - not much.

 

She should be offering to pay. Not doing so shows either extreme thoughtlessness or conscious selfishness, both of which are serious flaws if you're looking for a loving partner. I'd ask her why she doesn't pay for a change :toetap05:

 

Social custom is a strange animal. In our society the man is supposed to be the provider. As such, without a verbal commitment that is different, the man should pay.

Should the relationship grow to the point the the two are one - then the responsibility is shared. Each has the responsibility to support and care for the other - no matter what the circumstance.

 

The measure you give is the measure you get. Whatever you are paying for you share in.

 

My approach is this: I don't mind paying, but only for sex. Relationship/friendship goodies not included in the package.

 

The person who asks the other out on a date pays. Ask her out, you pay.

 

And, that is why I consider asking someone out a novice's blunder.

 

you should always allow the woman to pay, in fact insist on it.. anything less is both demeaning and sexist

unless ya want a legover that night... then ya gotta get ya wallet open

simples

 

There's nothing wrong with asking someone out. The cost of dinner for your choice of company and setting is pretty nice.

 

You are the classiest man on HipForums. Wanna do it?

 

buy me dinner?

 

I'll gladly buy you a hamburger tomorrow if I can do you today.

 

i'm not a slag

food first, fuck later

 

Let me test your blood glucose first. If it's low, you can have a bite before the fuck.

 

I find myself swept up in love as creedlespeek opens her heart. May I be second in line?

 

I'm a romantic and the men just flock to me. You're my li'l silver medal, Ddoright!

 

you can be the first.. it starts with a blood glucose test and ends with a kidney.. i've had these kinda dates before :leaving:

 

You guys are slaying me!!!:groupwave:

 

Make the next few dates sit-home-and-watch-TV-with-microwave-dinners nights. If she likes to cook, ask her to come over and make dinner with you (from food you already have or go grocery shopping together). Or walks in the park. Anything free that you can do together. If she's a keeper, she'll get the point in a reasonable amount of time. Seriously though, from a chick's POV, that's how it would work for me without seeming rude or untactful on your part. IMO it's rude of her to not be offering to pay her half at least some of the time anyway, so this will be a test for you both.

 

get use to it. it's not a fair world