Which one would you want? Love with one woman or no love with multiple women?

My friend at work asked me this? Asked me: If had to pick between being with only one woman you love for the rest of your life or being with multiple women at the same time and being “cursed” and not being able to feel any sort of love, emotion, intimacy, feelings, etc., what would you pick?

He told me he’d pick the multiple one? I mean, I could see wanting that for yourself if you’re just in it for sex and don’t have any interest in feeling human love or anything? But i personally would pick being with the one girl one cause at least you know you’re in love and together forever?

what about yourself? If had to pick between love with one “partner” for the rest of your life or being with multiple partners and not feeling anything? What would you want?

 

That's such a loaded question that I wouldn't answer it. It presumes that you can't be happy with multiple women - or, perhaps, you shouldn't be happy with multiple women; it presumes that you'd only be in it for the sex and that's bullshit since women are involved, it has to be for more than just the sex. It presumes that men do not have the capacity to love more than one woman and, well, this is my answer to a question that, officially, I'd never answer because I was in a relationship with three women for over twenty years and there was plenty of love... to go with the sex.

To each his own, of course, but your friend was a fool for picking multiple women but without emotion, intimacy, feelings, etc. when you can be with one woman and be without all of those things and as too many men are very much aware of right now. I would have had a field day shredding my friend's ass for asking such a ridiculous, one-sided question...

 

Okay, wasn’t asking for an attitude. Was just asking a hypothetical question I heard in a conversation? Why did you even respond if you you must have felt like my post/question “doesn’t matter” to you? I call Hypocrite there!

 

I would choose to be with one woman.
But! I would want to be able to choose EXTREMELY CAREFULLY!!!
Otherwise I rather not bother being with someone if I don’t feel it’s going to be right.

Two full time women, two cases of bs and manipulation, one of them insecure and brainwashed with ideas of fairy tales.

So if I cannot choose properly, better have occasional or unattached fun moments.

 

If I had to choose, I’d pick just one. Thankfully, I don’t have to make that choice.

 

Without a doubt…Love with just one woman. Call it generational/ religious brainwashing. But to love and be loved is a basic human desire.
That said, Desires can lead to other forms of non monogamy. My wife of 24 years and I live a ethical consensual non monogamous lifestyle.

 

Given, if that's the only choice, it would be with one woman for me. Humans need love. Humans give love. We give and love infinitely. We can love many, many other humans that just one. Plus we can have sex with many, many other humans and still love the one. That's my choice and after having sex with as many women as I have there is more than one that I have and do love.