Which do you think is worse?

Being alone, or being around people who make you feel alone?

This is a question I've been debating in my mind lately. I'm curious to know how other people feel about it. I'm beginning to think the former is the lesser of the two evils.

 

Being alone is worse.

 

being around people who make you feel alone is worse for me- - i dont mind doing things by myself. but when your with others and you feel alone,,man you are just with the wrong kind of people

 

no , i dont agree with piaf,being around people who make you feel lonely is worst, but no one should be lonely when there on hip forums

 

I don't mind being alone but I'm lucky enough to be able to pick when I am. And I don't know how somebody else can make me feel alone.
So I'm confused on what you're asking.

 

Think I agree with you.

I'm not sure what you mean by "feeling alone". However, I think I'd rather watch tv/ go to the gym/whatever than socialise with people I don't like/don't trust etc. I'm never lonely, but I have sometimes wondered this when I am away on business trips, and decided not to bother with certain people.

I tend to give people the benefit of the doubt, but more and more so, if I dont think the people are genuine, I avoid them. Cutting off slippery/insincere people gives me a nice feeling.

 

Definitely people who make you feel alone. I'm at the point in my life where I'm much more content alone than around anyone who isn't real.

 

I used to feel that way, but I'm beginning to change my mind.

I'm slowly beginning to realize this...

By them being emotionally/mentally absent. Or just flat out disregarding your presence.

This is what I've been doing a lot lately.

Until recently, I had never really spent a lot of time alone. I've never really identified with being a loner, but I'm starting to think it might not be so bad.

 

I suppose being with people that make you feel as though you are alone is worse as if you feel being with people makes you less lonely than being alone you've kinda got nothing!

 

See, I used to think differently too.

 

I'm a little confused on what you're saying here. lol

What changed your mind?

 

I like being alone.
I only get lonely when I'm with people that make me feel like i am alone, so I'll definitely choose this as being worse.

 

:dizzy2:

have another glass of wine odon

 

aren't we all ultimately alone within ourselves anyway?
the only thing I know is real are my own thoughts and experiences, beyond that ???


all-alone is all we are......

 

I've been in both positions: being alone and being around people that make me feel alone...

Being around people that make me feel alone is way worse.

 

I think sometimes we outgrow social groups,whether through circumstances or choice,or a natural evolution of the kind of people we want to be around.I've been through at least five social groups in my life.I've hung onto a few old friends here or there,but see them infrequently,with occasional telephone conversations or the odd text.I am currently trying to find a new social group,but it's not easy.I have always been what I call a "bedroom boy'.I like to be alone with my stuff and do my own thing.Everyone should have an inviolable space where they get to earth with themselves.But I also like to have the option to be around people.However the people I live with are not really my type,but I try to make the best of it and mix with them.Sometimes I have to be with people I don't really like but I try to find something cool about them so I can relate and not feel "alone" with them.Often I have to modify myself to fit in.I am prepared to compromise myself in this way but some people aren't.

 

I don't really like being around people much. I say it's definitely better to be alone than be with people you don't like.

 

If you feel alone when alone and the people you associate with make you feel lonely, then what else have you got to make you feel less lonely? If you have not got people around you that don't make you feel lonely then you don't have anything...as in your lonely even with people - which has to be worse than being alone with out people.

 

I kinda agree with this. At the end of the day, all we have is ourselves.

I've never been in the second position until the last year, so it's never really been something that I've had to ponder.

I wouldn't say I would modify myself to fit in with anyone, but I do consider myself a relatively adaptable person.

I'm turning slowly morphing into that. I've always been extremely social, and maybe even a tad co-dependent. So, this is new for me.

I've never really spent a lot of time alone before...it's not something I'm accustomed to, and to be honest, it's been something I've been kind of afraid of. The people that are currently in my life though...I feel alone and kind of disconnected when I'm around them. So, it's been dawning on me, that being alone is less lonely than being around people that make me feel alone.

 

I understand. I think. Perhaps if you spend a lot more time alone you might feel differently when you are with people that you are disconnected from - but then why would you be with them? It's complicated. I've been alone by choice, alone because of work commitments and disconnected with others. I've always had some form of escape, though. Maybe I don't really know what it feels like to be truly alone.