where to draw the line

okay, how do i kno the difference between having a feminine bf and him actually being gay or down low. and can you actually be gay and not know it?

 

What does your gut tell you? i don't think theres any way you can find out except if he tells you. I do believe you can be gay and not know it, in the sence that maybe he was raised to be "Straight", so he just hasn't addressed those thoughts out of fear. You can try to ask him, but don't just come out and say "Are you gay?". That might piss him off. Just enter it into a conversation. Like say you've thought about other girls, Then just ask him if he has thought about other guys.

Then, on the other hand, there is such a thing as being a little feminine, But still straight. Its called "Metrosexuality". But, either way, I wish you luck!
PEACE!

 

What are your reasons for questioning him?

 

There is no feminine meter that says, "If you go past this point, you are gay." He could be a feminine straight guy.

 

you could try asking him and believing his answer and not being so judgemental about the way a person is
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Maybe he's just feminine, I've know quite a few really feminine guys who were neither gay or even bi, just prefered to be feminine.

 

Indeed. You wouldn't say someone must be straight just because they were butch and didn't have that horrible nasal quality to their voice. Partly because you'd have a mouthful of their cock, but also because it wouldn't necessarily be true.

 

I am like Fantasia. I have no boundaries or fine lines Once you start drawing lines, you start to spoil the moment.

 

I've fairly certain that my guy is bi (oooo, how it rhymes)... he doesn't know it yet (or maybe I'm wrong), but I know I certainly wouldn't mind.

 

what line?

 

i've kind of wondered the same things about the guy i'm seeing. i think hes bi... which is pretty hot if he is.

 

my bad, guys. i didnt address that yes ive asked him on more than 1 occasion if hes gay or not & hes denied it. its jus that he'll do certain things (like take really "gay" pictures) that make me requestion him again. making me wonder if hes gay and doesnt know it. i love him and weve gone out for like 6 months now, but i cant beat the feeling sometimes. but also, this is when hes away (its long distance): when im with him, its cool. but when were apart i wonder....i dunno what to really do to get over this feeling

 

I know I'm going to regret asking this but whats 'really gay pictures'
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Have an affair?

 

I'm wondering the same thing.