Where Do You Meet Men In Their 20S?

I'm a 23 year old female an Ive only ever had 1 boyfriend, but it lasted 4 years. It ended about 2 years ago now.
Ive been on plenty of random dates, almost all from online dating. I'm not a big fan. Ive also slept with 2 guys in that time frame.

I'm not sure if i'm desperately seeking a relationship or but i'm not against it. I'm just waiting for the right person.

BUT I HAVE NO IDEA WHERE TO MEET GUYS.

Online - tried it, wasn't a fan. All the guys were either weird AF or just wanted sex.

At bar - very attractive guys, just my type, but none approach me or get into it when i approach them OR some will look good but are just dicks and/or just want sex.

I thought about the idea of joining a club but what kind of clubs do guys really go to?

I mean, if i'm into a very manly man type of guy, tall, burly, hockey player type guy, he's not gonna be part of some cheesy afternoon club at the local city center!!!! :/

I do play hockey, but not with men which makes it hard. Most of my friends are in committed relationships and so they aren't out looking for men with me and their bfs friends are not my type.

I'm at a loss...

 

The gym or health club?

 

hmm maybe, but i dont tend to go there. i workout at home and cant afford the gym

 

Clubs or bars? I hear they tend to stock such creatures.

Edit: oh but you said you tried that. Welp, I'm out of ideas.

 

Walking trails, bike routes, hiking/camping areas? Parks? Ok, this might be odd, but hardware/home improvement stores? Granted a lot of guys who go there may be married, but...

It's not the same as it used to be. The internet makes it easier for single guys to stay home.

 

When I think about it... I don't really see any younger guys out as much as I did. Never really thought about it before. There seems to be more in the streets than there are inside a pub.

But when you actively seek out to meet a guy at a bar, I think sex is always going to be on the cards to them. Or they might even think it's on the cards too because like, you won't often find friendship or be in the mood to talk to someone unless you're attracted to them in some way, shape or form.

I'd suggest posting what your online dating profile is. I bet we could easily make some adjustments to get the desired results.

 

there are some outdoorsy clubs in my area, groups that meet to kayak or hike or whatever. Also, I determined a long time ago the dog park is the absolute best place to meet guys. There are always some yummy dudes hanging out there with their doggies.

 

Thank God texting/Facebook/video games/twitter/Vine/Snapchat etc etc. etc. - did not exist when I was 23.
Sweetheart, like my son and daughter (21 and 25)...you are trying to meet someone in a world where everyone is sitting on a couch doing one of the above.
I am astounded how my wife and I can be out and about on Fri/Sat night and the streets are not overflowing with young people. There are quite a few out - but
N O T H I N G like twenty years ago.

 

Three friends of mine actually met their partners by joining mixed softball leagues. Not all at the same time of course.....

 

Outstanding advice, any kind of sport league...also cooking classes etc. for those not athletic inclined.

 

Cooking classes are a great idea as well. I think any activity that is fun and does not make it a pressure issue of dating is more likely to be one where you meet people with no pressure and get a chance to know them a little. If the spark is there it will happen.

 

the grocery store

quick check of their cart will tell you if they are married or have kids

(married guy will look stressed and have a list that MUST BE FOLLOWED)

guy with kids will have lots of lunch snacks

 

...and the guy walking around looking at everyone's cart...stay away from him...

 

I have to admit, I too have noticed this.

Does seem to be a very noticeable lack of 20 somethings out an about at night nowadays.

And all the old haunts I used to frequent 20 years ago, have disappeared or been totally redone to suit an older clientele

This is the case with pretty much every venue in inner Sydney that used to host live music and just be a bar....remodelled into a bistro full of 30 to 60 somethings

 

I go to the dog park ALL THE TIME and im always hoping for that 101 dalmatian moment where our dogs meet and we fall in love, hahaha. But my dog park is either women, older men OR if you do see a young good looking guy he's there with his girlfriend
I have been going to this dog park for 2 years and not once did i see a nice young guy out with his dog alone!

I can try and class, i kinda wanna do something more athletic, but would it be weird to bring a friend to these things?

 

is there a ymca or a city rec center around? every ymca and a lot of rec centers offer steep discounts based on financial need.

i've literally never seen another person of either gender at the dog park. old ladies like to walk the walking path around the outside of it, but i've never seen anyone in the dog park part. even when i was in chicago, i stumbled across a dog park once and it was completely empty.

not that people don't take their dogs to the park; i see people with dogs at the park all the time. they just seem to ignore any dog parks.

 

I don't get this last thing. To me it is the best when someone approaches me (instead of people insisting on the dreaded man has to approach woman principle) At least then you know there is a genuine interest in getting to know each other. And there is also the implication she's emancipated/not stuck in gender roles. Who doesn't want to get to know a fun emancipated hockey girl!? :dizzy2:

 

Our culture has recently changed in ways that make it hard for guys to approach girls. You are considered "creepy" if you do. Maybe you should approach guys instead. We like that just as much as you do.

 

Online dating is annoying. It feels like a meat market where you have to sell yourself based on your best traits and hide everything questionable, only to die of anxiety that they will bail when they find out you're not the perfect creature described in your profile.

And I agree, most of the messages you get are from weirdos or people who not there to "date" in the strictest sense of the word. I'd message ones that I'm attracted to, but I hate just guessing at who I'd hit it off with. It just feels like such an incomplete picture of the person... I know that's what the meet-up and the date are for, but, ugh.... I dunno... I guess I have too much experience with clingers and being afraid I'd never get rid of them after the first date to want to volunteer for that kind of thing again. -_-

 

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