When you want sex badly, but sex workers know you're an incel...

Hi.

I'm actually not far off from being 40 years old. I have ASD and average looks, and wear glasses all the time, due to having bad eyesight. I haven't really had a proper relationship in my life, but I don't feel like getting into all of that right now. It will just remind me of my shortcomings.

Basically, I often go on a site called Adult Work to look for escorts, or mistresses. This is a very popular site, with a feedback system and a fancy enough layout. The members I like the look of are usually not in Edinburgh, unfortunately. They seldomly do tours. If they do, it's normally a spur of the moment thing, so if you're lucky to see someone you may gel with, then good for you.

But joining their OnlyFans and all that pish is totally pointless. I don't think it's even them writing the messages you receive, all of which are usually spammy in tone, because they want you to purchase these brief videos with unsexy crap, almost always locked behind a paywall.

For their free accounts, it's likely the work of a bot. They have zero respect for guys anyway. However, you just have to keep in mind that people aren't allowed to delve into meet-ups, due to their policy. The moderators can see your outgoing messages.

The sex workers I know of all have a bad attitude, with the exception of a few. Although I understand that sex workers are people too and perhaps they deal with tons of creeps that mess them about and haggle, but a lot of them I think are incredibly self-centered or narcissistic, and maybe even enjoy taken the piss.

The women into BDSM are worse, as they are rarely nice or approachable. I'm not saying they're all like that. But a lot of escorts or porn stars think it's okay to charge ridiculous prices, likely because they believe they have, or at least did have, a degree of infamy, popularity, or something a long time ago.

In a sauna that is local to me, you only pay like £30 to get in. Then you pay £100 or so to the lady you can choose in the lounge.

But these women!?

Some charge around £450 a pop - excluding extras. Often more, depending on who it is you contact. And like I said, they often aren't laid back, and can be rather pretentious and arrogant sounding, to be honest. You feel like if you say the least little thing, you will be hearing about it.

They entice simps to message them to share ideas. Or so it seems. Yet if you do that, you'll be branded as rude, referred to as another fantasist, and whatnot. So why be a sex worker if you don't want to receive suggestions on what the booking could entail?

I don't know. It really does feel like they just like to play games and keep on carrot dangling, because too many men are desperate. It's like the nonsense I used to get on a lot of these gaming forums. People wouldn't agree on some opinion, so flame wars would start, resulting in you feeling like contributing at all was a bad idea. And you can imagine how petty it all becomes when users go way off topic, just to rile up someone. I witnessed that way too often.

But, yeah. If you want to get laid, then AW ain't worth your time. Because I've had nothing but hassle from lippy women on there for decades by now, who act so narcissistic. And on X, and so on, all they do is boast about things they did with their mates, and encourage sugar daddies and simps to be at their beck and call. But you can tell they don't even appreciate what these losers provide for them online, and then openly begin mocking them in public comment sections.

That could never be me. But do you use AW yourself?