When You Can't Stop Thinking Of Someone

Those nights when the bed is too empty, those nights when despite being aware of the foolishness the mind can't be shut off...

Does anyone else know of those nights?.when all you want is to be next to that certain person, when you feel as if you need this person, couldn't live without them (more delusions of the mind I know but still...)

That lonelyness that eats at you from the inside, when you feel the pain.

How do you deal with another lonely night?

 

It's difficult. I went through it really hard. I cried everyday for the first 6 months. I thought about it all day for 9 months. Gradually, it lifts little by little but it doesn't go away. We are only separated by distance and circumstance. We had no falling out. Now, it's been 5 years and I'm mostly just numb.

 

for a guy its easy, just meet new girls. the only time this doesn't work is when you suck at meeting girls.

 

Yeah that part, essentially. Suck at meeting guys and girls (I go both ways.) I had to experience these feelings just to realize I need people in my life.

To any extrovert that may sound odd but for too many years I believed that I could go through life alone and be all the happier for it. As I got older I came to realize this is not true.

I like being alone, I need my olone time, I'd be ok spending most of my time alone the way I do and have done but too much alone and not enough contact is not good for anybody. Took me longer than you'll know to realize this.

 

Sorry to hear about the pain you went through. I always forget how many people have suffered a lot worse than I am. I think everything happens for a reason and reminding myself of that fact and the fact that it is up to me to manifest my own reality, these things help me break free of that mindset.

 

Doublepost my bad.

 

Hello. Does the person who you yearn for even know how you feel?

 

Hello. To be honest I'm not sure. I would say things like "I think I need you in my life" or "I think I love you" but I'm not sure either of us fully knew exactly what I was trying to say.

This is a self employed guy who lives in Burlington Vt. so the distance is part of it and he also has a lot going on in his life between his jobs and projects and thats probably part of it too.

Or maybe he senses a clingingness which I also sense in myself and wants me to make my life happen for myself. He's the most spiritually illuminated but down to earth person I've ever had the blessing to meet in this life.

There were times, too, when I now realize I may have unknowingly done the same thing to him. Maybe its not meant to be. Maybe I have a ways to go before I am at his level of awareness and social ability.

Either way he is a good friend, he told me I'm a real good friend to him too. I suppose thats what matters the most.

Were both making drastic changes in our lives also but at different levels and to different degrees so part of it is probably the same suffering I'm going through. I feel like it is time now to give him space, in the real and digital worlds. Sometimes its as simple as that.

 

Hehe, well you don't "think" you "know"

=)

Get at 'em with a full head of steam and confidence.

 

Yes... There is someone.



We've never met.

 

Well its nice to meet you Tyrsonswood

...But what are you talking about "there is someone" ??confused??

 

Simple... There is someone I can't stop thinking about.

 

Ok haha sorry man I'm a little slow sometimes. Thing is if you've never met the person, never had any kind of person to person intimacy it can't be the same as a person with whom your roots go deep.

 

Roots can go very deep... Several lifetimes deep.

 

I can believe that. Some people you just meet and its as if you've known them all your life.

 

hipforums and beer.

 

i have learnt to just feel it out and let the rest for the universe to take over, time heals and the amount of time we have been here in so many lives, and so many other experiences we got through, hard and good, we made it to this day, so let's rejoice and dance around the fire.