Hi, Actually I came form a country with different background in terms of relationships. Now I am dating a French girl who broke up with her boyfriend 3 weeks ago. We had so far two meetings on a cup of coffee (4 hours meetings) and tomorrow we will have a dinner and go to the theatre to watch a movie. I am wondering when can I invite her for a dinner at my house. I don't want to move quickly and hurt the relationship but I am wondering , in general, when should I invite her? Thx
In Europe there are basically no generel rules from when on you can invite a girl to your home. It is more like, you invite her when you have the feeling that she might be comfortable with the idea of being invited to your place. If you feel insecure, you can always ask her! But you should not feel rejected if she's not into it instantly. Look at her behavior during your dates in the past. Did she seem to feel confident being with you? Of course the fact that she did just break up with someone makes it all a little difficult. But if you just set it up as an ordinary dinner, with a good conversation, some music and stuff, I mean, why not`? Just ask her weather she likes the idea. After all everything is just about feeling comfortable with it.
The way I see it there is no "right" or "wrong" time to invite someone over to your place. Unfortunately there is so much pressure hanging over people's heads about what they are supposed to do and not supposed to do during a relationship. Just let all that go and do what comes natural. If you moved into a new neighborhood and your neighbors came to your house to welcome you to the neighborhood wouldn't you invite them in? I don't see it as being any different. There doesn't have to be so much pressure. Just invite her over and behave as you normally would. Carry on conversation and just be yourself and everything should work out just fine. If it doesn't then perhaps you two just aren't meant to be together.
I don't think it's gentlemanly to invite a girl to your place unless there is going to be a big party with a lot of people there.Otherwise, she might think you just want to get her into bed. ~peace & love
