When One Kid Bullies, Why Does EVERYONE Seem To Join In?

There was this girl in grade school. Call her A. And she was so sweet. But the kids picked on her mercilessly, apparently because she was a little different.

We really didn't have a class president, because we were a small school. But one time we tried it. And she ran, probably because her therapist or someone told her to (I still don't know the details of her case).

Out of about 90 kids, only three people voted for her. She obviously voted for herself, and we later figured the teacher probably voted for her. So really only one kid voted for her, I still don't know who.

One or two kids picking on someone is bad enough. But why does everyone seem to do it then?

 

Kids see bullies as the alphas. So, they behave in agreement with bullies as a way of preventing bullies from turning on them.

Most people are cowards.

 

Whenever one sees a bully, there are always those little suck-asses around him laughing and egging him on. I can honestly say that when I was in grammar school, I took it upon myself to shut bullies down whenever I encountered them humiliating someone. Of course I was 6 foot 2 at 14 and was able to back up my demand to stop. Maybe if I had been 5 foot four , I wouldn't have been so quick to speak up. Who knows?

 

Of course, fear of them being next. Then they all grew up to be nice little toady republicans, lining up behind their favorite bully, Trump...

 

While pondering these questions, remember that THESE guys are our closest relatives in the animal kingdom:



96% genetic compatibility with us. They even rape and eat fermented fruit for the purpose of getting drunk. Sound familiar?





Don't expect things to get better any time soon. Our sadistic tendencies date back millions of years, even transcending us as a species.

 

Where did you get the videos of my in-laws???

 

Lol. Do your in-laws cannibalize other family members after "heightened sexual tension"?

 

Nope, but they do share the same mentality and IQ...

 

It's down to a natural survival instinct i think, any animal, be it man, horse, lion or anything knows theres safety in mumbers, look at the wildlife films, its always the animal that gets seperated from the herd that gets eaten, because its alone, vulnerable, look at football hooligans after a match, theres a group of 20 or 30 hooligans walking down a street when they meet a large crowd of opposition fans, they walk by quietly, yet around the corner they encounter a group of maybe 7 or 8 opposition fans and immediately attack, they know they have little chance of being beaten by the smaller pack. In much the same way its the same with bullying, nobody likes to be bullied, and who are the people who get bullied? Simple, those who are alone, or different, because they stand out. Most people will adopt a herd mentality and side with the people doing the bullying, simply because they fear becoming a target themselves, its far easier to join the mob than to stand up and call the bullies out and risk becoming a target yourself. Quite often when you ask people why they're bullying someone, they cant give you a definitive answer however wrong it may be, for example, 'well he likes pop music and i dont' more often its a case of, 'well everyone else does it and i just followed along' . Its a sad indictment of todays society when its easier to side with the wrongdoers than to stand against them!

 

Bullies respect one thing: strength. If you can't at least give them a good fight then you'd better stay quiet. I remember as a kid asking one to leave another kid alone and he replied, "Why? You want to fight me for him?" I told him I was just trying to talk him out of it and he said, "If you don't want to fight for him then shut the fuck up!" Seeing as how I was over-matched I backed down.

If you can't beat 'em join 'em, that's the way most kids think. There were some tough kids who stood up to bullies, but the problem was that bullies run in packs. You mess with one of them, you mess with all of them. One of them messes with you, they all mess with you. Eventually they grow up and most of them realize that what goes around comes around. Those that don't tend to wind up in jail.

 

I was just going to add to this thread. "A" is now a successful opera singer. Like a doctor once told me, sometimes success is really the best revenge.

 

Conformity sometimes works like a gigantic, rotten rag rolling down a big hill!

 

When I was asked to go along to a pop concert back in my school days. I just told everyone that I was going to the opera house that evening.
I was actually quite surprised by the number of them who took an interest and asked me about the opera the following day.
In a group, their can be more than one alpha, when people show their individuality, rather than behaving like a flock of sheep.

 

Fortunately, it normally ends up in the ditch.