When looks don't matter.

I think it's such a beautiful thing when you find someone, and you can look beyond the ouward appearence. Appearence never mattered to me, but selfishly, and being quite shallow, it used to take a factor. I think it's such an amazing thing when you find someone who treats you wonderfully, and you are able to forget the physical, and one day, you realize that you never even notice it anymore, only gazing at their beautiful soul.

 

Meh, I don't really think it's very shallow at all. It's shallow if that's all you go for, but from a purely biological standpoint, we're programed to be attracted to traits we may one day like to pass on to our children (even if you don't want kids, it's the natural instinct side of it). Also, some traits that are generally considered "bad" often have to relate to health and hygene. We naturally want healthy mates, and if someone has yellow teeth or is extremely overweight, it can be a sign that they don't care for themselves properly. Of course, I'm not saying there are no exceptions, but this is generally how it is.

 

When it comes to sex, I think looks matter to everyone, regardless of a person's "other traits." I don't think it's a matter of being shallow or self-centered.

 

What's even better is when you find someone like that -- and they're hot!

 

I'm picky, its all about a nice balance for me

 

what you are is damm sexy.

 

heh that was funny

 

beh beh beh beh beh

 

until you snort it, then its gone

 

wohooo my first smile since this morning

 

that was beautiful

 

but in all seriousness I can say that looks have never mattered to me. I only require knowledge of useless facts, a sense of humor and and the ability to refrain from playing games. The last qualification is by far the most important as I have the gift of turning overly serious men in their thirties into goof balls and they can read an encyclopedia to brush up on useless facts, but I have found that playing games remains consistent even during the relationship...so that is a deal breaker. But ya I could care less about what someone looks like.

 

lynsey doenst like her men to have fun outside of the relationship. thats a little scary.

 

heh...I think you know what I meant I am actually not the least bit posesive or jealous which has made my past partners insecure.

 

Dreamweaver are you back on coke again? I hope not. Anyway, I think that lookism is alive and well here in America and probably all over the world. That is how merchandise is marketed and sold, with youth and looks. If you want the girl next to the car in the ad then you'll want the car too. It's not going to go away so we might as well just deal.

 

Thats just something fat and ugly people say to make themselves feel better

 

sometimes looks matter too much.

 

My looks don't matter to me.

 

Looks change over time. They matter in the beginning, because usually you see someone before you have spoken to them. First impressions and all that.
It's like if you are served a disgusting looking meal, you probably won't taste it to see if it's any good, because it looks so bad. "Your eyes eat first"

These days, a lot of people meet online, so personalities are more important.

 

I do care about looks


I have met guys that had freakishly large heads and I can't stop staring because I'm so amazed by its size.....can't date someone if you are waiting to see if their head explodes

anyhoo, someone's personality will make them cute to me. I don't know what it is but when I look at them and I know how great they are, all of a sudden I think they are cute as hell


I know ....I got issues