When "daddies" still seek "daddies"......

They often say, "age is but a number".

Given that, many younger gay/bi men seek relationships with older "daddy" types (of course, this also works in "reverse" as well)

I'm curious as to how many older (senior) men, like myself, despite their senior status, still find men OLDER than themselves attractive.

Now, I've seen a number of guys much younger than myself that certainly nothing to write home about.

On the flip side, I've seen guys that are easily into their late 70's or 80's, and STILL have an appeal.

As age is but a number, as far as I'm concerned, I find myself easilt attracted to men in their early 20's to others well into their senior years.

Your opinions?

"Live long and prosper"

 

I just turned 60, and prefer men 50-70 y/o. I say prefer, because I dont want to completely limit my options</wink>.

 

I’m 55yo and have met men in their 60’s-70’s that I was attracted to.

Most of my straight friends are in their mid-70’s so it’s an age group I’m usually around. I really enjoy their maturity, level headedness, and patience as I share struggles in my life.

The guy I climb with regularly is 74. He has a great sense of humor and is fun to be around. I think older men know how to relax a bit more than me and I find it helps me to relax. I tend to be too high strung.

I can most definitely see myself in a relationship some day with a man 10-20 years older than me.

 

I've long been attracted to older (senior) men, from the time I was in my 20's.

Actually, I've found males of ANY age (18 and up) to be sexy, especially if they come equipped with "plenty of meat in the seat".

Seriously, I DO like maturity in a man, as well as a good sense of humor.

Being celibate my entire 65 years, I DO still appreciate platonic friendships I had with straight co-workers, many years ago, especially my late best friend, who was nearly 20 years my senior.

Man, if he had only been bi-curious, at least; I have VERY intense feelings for him, but, was MORE than satisfied with the strong, brotherly bond between us.

Regardless, as I had said earlier, age is but a number (at least in theory!)

"Live long and prosper"

 

"Roll with the punches", "go with the flow".........makes good sense to me!

From what I know of you, I think ANY man, regardless of age, would find you QUITE interesting; you have a tremendous amount of value to give to ANY man.

I'm 65, soon to turn 66 (geeze, how did I get this old?) and I STILL cannot believe I am actually a senior citizen now!

Anyway, I think we ALL know OURSELVES.....and our likes and dislikes, better than anyone else........

"Live long and prosper"

 

I know from visiting SilverDaddies in past years (for the photos!) it was easy to see that there were QUITE a few younger guys looking for "daddies", and QUITE a few older gents looking for younger guys.

I recall seeing photos of senior men in the early 80's that were indeed QUITE "equipped"(!!)

I always found inter-generational m/m relations VERY erotic; a guy, say, 20, with a man old enough to be his dad or grandfather I think is truly stimulating, and, further goes to prove that there are many men with many tastes.......and that, I feel. indeed makes for some VERY interesting "connections", even though I am TOTALLY out of the picture, in this respect.

LIKE what you LIKE........PERIOD!

"Live long and prosper"

 

"True love knows no bounds"

IMHO, a man's age is not relevant in a STRONG, LOVING, CARING, PASSIONATE relationship.

It is the inner qualities, the sincerity, the honesty, and the loving heart that IS relevant.

"Live long and prosper"

 

I am sure that a senior bi/gay man, seen with a another man much, much younger than himself, indeed must often be thought of as "a dirty old man" (likewise, a senior guy with a much younger female)

Why should a substantial age difference be an issue at all?

As long as two legal age consenting adults are involved, why the fuss?

LOVE who you LOVE....enjoy your relationship to the FULLEST, and ignore ANY or ALL that find fault with your relationship(s).........

"Live long and prosper"

 

I'm currently 41. Ive been curious since i was in my early 20's. From then until this day, i still find older men more attractive. If i were to finally have a chance to experiment, Id like it to be with an older man

 

I wish you luck, my friend; hope you get the chance, one of these days.

Even when I was in my 20's and 30's, I always felt a powerful attraction towards older men (50 and over).

They have a certain sexiness that is hard to describe, but very erotic, for many reasons.

"Live long and prosper"

 

Thank you! I worked at an ice rink back in my 20's and the adult leagues would play late. I was the closer, so i think walking into the locker rooms to tell the guys to hurry up in various times of them changing has something to do with the older men fascination.

I have belonged to Sniffies for a while, but man, it is full of creeps. We didnt have these kind of sites or apps when i was in my early 20's (that i knew about) so opportunities were definitely limited lol

And no, people on that Sniffies site want to hook up without even exchanging a picture. I'm married so i know abput the want to be descreet, but i also would prefer to find a single person to build some trust with. I'm terrified of disease and it seems like a lot of them dont think twice about it

 

I think you are being very wise.

These days, a gay/bi man HAS to be VERY cautious when attempting a "hook up" with a man he has never met before.

You have to be VERY careful; HOW do you know how HONEST this guy is being with you?

Could he really be a basher, looking to harm an unsuspecting victim?

Is he being honest with you when he tells you he is disease-free?

Of course, you have NO WAY of knowing for sure.

That is why I think ANY man in this situation HAS to think with his BRAINS and NOT his LIBIDO.

"Gut feelings" (like common sense) are not to be underrated, nor ignored.

Just for the record, I am a 65-year old gay man, totally celibate; I was beaten up badly by a straight "friend" and coworker, back in 1986 just for ADMITTING I was gay (I had no intention of revealing my true sexuality, but I was being pressured to the point where I could not take it any longer)

Yes, I'm LONELY.....yes, I'm FRUSTRATED (emotionally AND sexually).....BUT, at the VERY LEAST, I know I am safe from ALL harm and do not have to worry about bashers, backstabbers, or disease.

At one time, I wanted nothing more than to find my "life partner"; today, seeing what the world is like, and what people are, I'm more than satisfied to live in my own little world, a world where NO ONE can harm me.

I think, my friend, you are showing a very WISE and MATURE view on this topic.......

"Live long and prosper"

 

My personal message to ANY bi/gay male here who is lucky enough to have a mature emotional/sexual relationship with another man (men) is simply this:

You are FAR more fortunate than your realize; age be damned (as long it is a legal age!) and ENJOY what YOU yourself ENJOY, with another man that matters to YOU!

"Live long and prosper"

 

Thanks for opening up and sharing with us this horrific incident that happened to you. So sad violence is still a threat to gays/bi’s.

I’ve heard many stories of thugs going on gay dating sites to trick men into getting beat up or blackmailed. So I’m being very careful. Right now I just don’t have the time to meet guys. Busy with various things in life. Hopefully someday!

But I certainly will be very careful.

 

Again, my friend, I commend you for your good commen sense.

You are right on track, where you should be.

The past several days, I've heard on the news that a number of gay men have been drugged and assaulted by some sick-minded lowlife(s) frequenting gay bars in the Hell's Kitchen area of Manhattan; this, sadly, sounds like a straight basher.

This has, actually, been going on for some time now.

Sick.....sad.....and pathetic.

Here is a PERFECT example of having to be EXTREMELY cautious when trying to "connect" with another gay/bi male.

Also, my friend, I thank you for your kind words; that totally-uncalled for attack (by someone I considered a FRIEND, no less) this still traumatizes me to this very day. I'll bear the emotional scars of that day for the rest of my life.........

"Live long and prosper"

 

thepapasmurph:

As is your forte, you, once again, add much insight and maturity to a discussion; as you are already well-aware of my personal situation (totally celibate for 65 years), I will not rehash it here.

IMHO, I do not think ANY of us here can OVER-EMPHASIZE the IMPORTANCE of being CAREFUL and utilizing COMMON SENSE the the fullest, when trying to "hook up" with another man for intimacy.

There is a great deal that has to be taken into consideration, not the least of which is, saying to yourself:

"Is this guy being HONEST with me?"

"Can I TRUST him?"

When it comes to a gay/bi married male trying to meet up with other men of the same persuasion, there are far too many pros and cons, to be sure.

Here, in this situation, COMMON SENSE is indeed the byword; NO sexual encounter, no matter how HOT the sex might be, is worth getting an STD, being hurt (emotionally or physically), or losing your self-respect.

Take things SLOW and easy, and NEVER ignore your "gut feelings".......they're usually right on the mark.......

"Live long and prosper"

 

Long ago, I read somewhere something that has stayed with me for many years afterwards:

"The truth frightens some people, so they put up walls to protect themselves from it."

Think of how many straight bigots are reluctant to admit that gay and bi men arejust as much MEN as THEY are!

Something else I remember reading years ago:

"Some people tend to fear what they do not understand."

Are bigots afraid to admit that we gay and bi men also have feelings, wants, and, also, the need to be LOVED and RESPECTED, just as THEY do?

For a supposedly advanced society, we are, sadly, sliding backwards in time to barbarism, hostility, and injustice......

"Live long and prosper"