Well I haven't had sex for four years now due to nature of my work and have been busy through the yeas. I just didn't have time to date or go clubbing like I used to when I was in the late teens and early twenties. I'm 27 now. Recently I was able to hook up with one of the pretty girls I work with. She is hot that makes me hard just by looking at her. But when we recently had sex, it was... Underwhelming. I wasn't able to cum for the whole 2 hour session. The sex felt like a chore for me. Since I was the one making her cum and I'm just there humping and wasting energy while I try to cum. I'm hard and I was horny as fuck but the experience itself or the fucking itself didn't make me cum. I even tried every position I know off, I wasn't able to cum. Why is this? For the four years I haven't had sex Ofcourse I had satisfied myself with porn and just masturbation. Those two things can easily make me cum however the actual sex didn't? What is going on? My theory is just I have been masturbating for 4 years to bdsm and kinky videos that normal sex won't do it for me anymore is that it? But that's my theory but even so the feel of pussy around your dick should make you push you never the edge like how masturbating is but why is it when I had sex with her it was just me doing her for the 'workout' since I just got sore muscles and no relief. She came Alot but not me. Anyone know why? After that I just went home and masturbating myself to satisfaction within minutes. Sigh..
You have answered your own question. You have become conditioned to masturbating with the stimulation of hardcore porn. You need to focus on the fantasy of the hot girl who is real and relax into what she can do for you, not what some porn star is doing on your screen. You are not broken, you just need to re-learn the sensual pleasure of a real woman/.
i believe thats one of the dangers of too much porn, and thats the precises reason i like to keep porn and masturbation to a minimum. you should normalize if you go on a porn and masturbation diet.
It could actually be that the OP and this girl just weren't sexually compatible. There are many possible causes, I suppose. I personally don't really buy the porn hypothesis because he has clearly said the girl was very sexually arousing to him. When one is highly aroused sexually, such arousal in cunjunction with countinual genital stimulation usually yields an orgasm sooner or later. He says he also hadn't had sex for a long time prior to this experience, so perhaps he might have developed some sort of unrealistic expectation toward the sex with this girl? Maybe it was the anticipaton itself, of having sex with this really attractive girl, that somehow, on a subconscious level, made him "on guard" in a mental sense...... That is essentially stress, even though many people might not recognize it as such due to its seemingly positive(as in the sex with someone sexy) outer shell. We often hear about guys experiencing premature ejaculation due to nervousness/stress, but the opposite(lack of orgasm) has also been known to happen as well when under stress. If the OP also takes medication of some sort, then that may have been the reason as well. One of my best friends has told me his ability to climax has become affected when he started taking a certain type of madication, and apparently he began experiencing difficulty climaxing himself. So that's another possibility.......
