Whats wrong with being a Nice Guy

I dont get it, why is it that the nice guy always gets pushed aside and the Dick always gets the girl? I honestly dont get it at all. could someone please explain to me whats the big deal about being nice?

 

i honestly prefer the nice guy, but it took me a few dicks to realise that. my boyfriend right now is probably the nicest guy i have and will ever meet. in the end the nice guy wins out. most of the time it just takes a while for us girls to realise that good things right in front of us.

 

well, depends, once again, by what you mean by "nice guy" and "dick." to some people, nice guy is a nice way of saying "weenie and suck up." to some people, "dick" is a harsh way of saying "the nice, strong guy who got the girl i wanted."

 

confidence seems to be the main thing
another is dominance, girls tend to incorrectly assume that nice guys won't have this quality

so act more confident and domineering, and it shouldn't matter as much

 

agree with the 2 above...

What is your definition of "nice." The guy who acts thankful to be in your presence from day 1 gets old quick. Why? Because there's nothing special about that. Relationships take time... and if you're giving 100% of your "niceness" to any girl you think is cute than what else is there. It's really hard to explain, but a girl likes to be kept on her toes. Don't waste all your energy on a girl unless she deserves it... it goes both ways.

 

my clasification of dick is the guy who pushes his girl around, treats her like crap, beats her, neglects her, and uses her for his own, not their mutual pleasure..

there is absolutely NO shortage of guys like this around, and it sickens me.

 

believe me, THAT kind of dick doesn't always get the girl... that's a whole different story with whole different issues.

 

ah. totally different then. that kind of guy gets that kind of girl because that girl is damaged goods, mentally broken, an emotional vacuum. i know. i was that girl.

 

I feel like alot of "nice" guys are just that..."nice". As in nothing else. As in "boring." As to why the dick always gets the girl, that's beyond me. I know alot of "nice" guys...but attraction has so much to do with chemistry, some of which you can't really help.

 

I love nice guys...I don't like weak minded or too easy going guys though. there's a difference between nice guys who are suckers and nice guys who are strong. I hate guys who are just a dick and never compromise. I guess my point is I don't mistake kindness for weakness in men nor do i mistake weakness for kindness.

 

yeah there's a lot of those guys around and they do get some hot girls. I don't get it either as there are tons of nice guys as well who will treat you right. I guess some women like to try to 'fix' guys...for me, no thanks i have enough drama for both parties involved.

 

agreed. some women are consciously, or unconsciously choosing a mate that will treat them like shit for self esteem reasons, or what have you.

If there's alot of "dicks" around, then there's enough dumb ass hoes to keep them satisfied. In fact my "dickhead" friends ONLY bring dumb ass hoes to my house, and when we go out (I hang with these "dicks" bc they can make good friends, and my fiance and I deal with others as a couple so I don't have to worry about their lover creditals). They NEVER show up with a classy lady because classy ladies go for classy men.

Now class is one thing that is hard to find when dealing with both men and women.

 

girls CAN be attracted to the assholes and bad boys because a lot of girls like demanding guys and thse can turn out to the "dick" ones, you'd eventually get tired of that, the good guys i like (not too nice) good guys are the ones not talking you into sex and IMing you or texting you back when the "dicks" take a day and a half >_< anyways

"dicks" can give girls an adventure then leave them cold once they get what they want from them, good guys play the safe side until they get to know you, then they bring out their wild side, and they wont leave you, they respect your wishes when the "dicks" abuse them

 

girls are obsessed with confidence. And douchebags (dicks) are always acting cocky and like they are the coolest dude ever. Girls are attracted to men who take control of things like that. They like it when a douchebag is doing something really stupid and immature...just because it attracts attention from others. Eventhough they dont know its stupid and immature. Girls also love attention. And douchebags give girls lots of that....grabbing and fondling and such lol.

And us nice guys are over there chillin, trying to figure out a way how to tell that same girl how happy we could make her lol.



Plus, the nice guys that dont say much, are shy or whatever dont get girls because girls think they have no personality when in fact they just dont know them very well, and the guy is just too shy to introduce himself. But in reality, that same guy could probably be really interesting and unique. most girls dont like that, they usually go for the superficial guys who are just like everyone else (DICKS). A lot of times, girls make up their minds so damn fast. They will have their mind made up after the first time they meet you sometimes. I am always really respectful and polite when meeting woman, and they always go for guys who are wasted out of their gourd and groping the shit outta them. Sorry i couldnt provide that to you m'am, i was just trying to be nice. Seeya!

 

hmmm most girls give me the shits. the only girls i like are the ones who seem to have alot of depth to them, usualy that smoke weed n take lsd. n are a bit quiter. i dont like those over the top annoying "trampy" type girls.

it seems to me that some people in relationships change the way they act around the oppisote sex, thus for a "nice guy" acting to nice and shit. for me, id just act the same as if i were with a normal friend.

and niceness is perceived as weakness. thats why nice people are allways pushed around.
i think its important to be nice, but retain an amount of teasing and confidence. without being overly nice and predictable and boring.

 

the last guy to grope the shit out of me got kicked in the nads. i think there's another dimesion you're missing. if the guy is incredibly good looking. those guys get away with a lot of aggravating shit. hell, in the right mood, i'm inclined to let them get away with more.

 

if the 'nice guy' doesn't make a move on ya, you're likely to end up with the guy who does. the guy who makes a move on ya is usually pretending to be nice anyways...but it takes a while to figure that out. :tongue:

 

I hate to be the bear of negativity here, but find the balance damnit!!

I've been through both sides. I was a dick, and I was that over sensitive prick. I used to cry when the chick I talked to on the phone, would make up a lie and say she had to go, and when I called my friend, (the dick) he was talking to her.

My brother, (the master of all ladies men) he gave me a lecture on what girls want and what you should do to get them. So I forgot the nice guy, and did what my brother had lectured me to do, which was basically, be a dick. I got the chick, I got what I wanted, and I dumped her.

It didn't feel right, matter a-fact, it tore me up inside because I know it wasn't the right thing to do. I found the median between these two and now I can say I'm very evenly balanced.

I don't have to go around playing everybody, screw that. I am who I am, and that just happens to be the nice guy. I really took to mind that my brother said ' No girl wants a boring guy." If I absorbed anything, that's it. I've been exciting, Slightly dominant, yet not overpowering and nice ever since.

I think after lots of experience between different things, you will find the balance as I have. Either that, or you'll find "the one" before you get to go through all this. Either way, heed my words my friend.

 

well, all in all, the opposite question would be "why do the nice guys always go for the hard-faced, gossip-mongering vicious bitches that only want dicks?"

 

Hahaha, very much agreed my friend.

Hey let me ask you a question, would you go out with a decent looking guy ( leaning towards ugly) that's incredibly nice and knows how to treat a lady.

OR

A Hot ass guy that treats a girl decent (leaning towards bad.)

No you can't change the hot guy into treating you good, and you can't give the ugly one a makeover, what would you pick?

Just curious.