What's the benefit of being judgmental?

Ok, that's all well and good. The type of judgment I'm referring to, is the one in the OP. I don't disagree with what you're saying, just that it's not what I intended to be the subject of this thread.

 

You intended to separate some judgement from other judgement. All judgement is the same though. It's all from the same well.

So, who and how does it benefit?

Answer - All of us. If we've ever laughed at someone else or enjoyed the compromise of someone else. The answer is all of us.

 

I am honestly not judgmental at all. In real life anyways. I'm not sure how I come off on the forums. As long as you're not doing something that is going to harm someone else, do whatever the fuck you want. I don't care. Dress however you want, be whatever you want. I don't pay much attention to people. I'm in my own world.

So like I said, I'm not sure how I come off on the forums though. If I am being judgmental towards someone it was probably because they were judgmental towards me and while I should just walk away, sometimes I am having a bad day or sometimes I am angry about someone or something in my real life and so I will judge someone for something really petty because I'm in a bad mood. And that's not me at all. I feel really terrible afterwards.

 

I am judgemental about a few things: people who cheat on a monogamous partner (I've never seen, "dated" or whathaveyou a married man or one who is otherwise attached), and parents that obviously don't put their children first, but are more concerned about themselves or their mate. I happen to think when you have a child, that child/children should be your main concern. period.

I hell-hate a pedophile, and wish for them lots of special time in an open prison population. Well, I also think they would make good cat-fish food, but that is beside the point.

Other than those things ^, I am not judgemental at all, especially since I grew up around people (but thankfully not in my little family) that were totally judgemental every moment they were awake...and I couldn't stand it.

When people fall down or get hurt or are publically embarrassed in some way, I never think it is funny...perhaps because I've fallen, gotten hurt and been embarrassed...and I've never found it to be amusing when it happens to others.

 

I agree with the things Lynn said. I am judgmental towards things like cheating and pedophilia. Those are actually things I'm very opposed to. But like I said in my other post, I'm not judgmental if you're not harming anyone else. And those two examples are harming others.

Though I think mama was asking more along the lines of why people judge on superficial things- clothing, looks..

I also don't laugh when people fall. I'd be the one going to help them up..

 

Everyone seems to be missing my point. I think I'm done with this subject.

Carry on.


Applause for wcw and ace for getting it.

 

Ok, rainy gets it too.

 

laugh at farts, yes, falling down, no.....
I could give 2 shits what people do, wear....etc, as long as they are not hurting me or bothering me, I couldn't care less....live and let live. I have never made fun of anything. I don't judge. I get angry, too....though.....If you have nothing nice to say, say nothing is a good old fashioned rule of thumb.....People can benefit from constructive criticism, though...if the need arises or is asked for it.

 

Rather than congratulate those who agreed, I was hoping you could help me understand.

 

See.. This is all about superficial skin deep reasons. Alleviating the guilt of having ever judged for reasons aside from these.

"Have you judged one's appearence? Well that's bad. But if you've judged for any other reason...well, that's outside the scope of this discussion."

 

I think people are understanding that the op meant more superficial judging but some people just wanted to further discuss different types of judgement...
Another thing I wanted to add is that I think a lot of people tend to judge things they don't understand or havn't experienced. If I ever find myself judging something that I feel I shouldn't be judging, I make an effort to try to understand the person and put myself in their shoes.

 

But the problem is that there are no variants of judgement. It is all one and the same. And I don't know about "some people". It seems just me.

You've never found yourself saying, "I personally wouldn't do this...but some do."?

 

That isn't something I'm likely to say because my perspective can change at any time and I might find myself doing whatever they might be doing I'm more likely to be saying to the person doing the judging, "Why do you care what they do? You don't know what they're going through. You don't know their story.."

 

People judge out of fear whether they are dwelling on something from their past and/or fearing what might happen in the future. If you can realize that and accept it within yourself, it usually helps to let go of it. Once you do, you realize all you are left with is the present moment. Once you're in that moment it helps with judgement levels dramatically because without your fear in the way you realize they are just people just like you who may be going through something beyond what you know. That day, that week, that time in their life. But what matters is that moment.

Knowing that really helps brighten my day. Because it give me an opportunity to give said judged people a polar opposite of what they are used to.

Granted, I'm imperfect in a lot of ways. And I still get annoyed from time to time almost overwhelmingly so. But at this point when things annoy or offend me, I'm able to see the bigger picture with their life and maintain my patience.
And homeless people are some that I'm working on. I must have a phobia of some sort because I completely freeze and my brain stops and I just want to run. Of course, I know better than that and I push myself past it most of the time...

Regardless, I have a lot of anger and incredible frustration built up from my life that I'm still working though.

Sorry about the novel. :/


<3 Bunnie

 

Yep, if u just live in the moment don't be afraid of shit wolves can smell fear. I could be a stick up kid too but I try to make people happy and help when I can

 

add immature mind/psyche
uneducated
drugged/damaged
google reptilian brain then click images
it comes from animalistic alienated nature
sociopathic

and yet judgment is sooo essential
you cannot take a step without analyzing and judging where to place your foot

it is also a result of programming
we were taught that criticism isn't acceptable - social norms
but the new generation x
raised by single moms, drugged, drunk, dysfunctional, separated parents
born with rewired brains from damaged dna
will naturally have such traits

on the ''church of good earth thread''

I saw members older complain that this forum has gone downhill
with younger less loving more sexual members
I agreed.

ppl's ability to relate will go down as oxygen levels continue to drop
this affects brain activity
earth losing its magnetosphere
food water air contamination rising
noise levels rising

all this coupled with hereditary genetic damage from addictions
and decreased life quality will create snap reptilian jugments resulting in conflict, war, murder, gangland mentality and demise.

 

PS

Leary lied about LSD not harming DNA
it does
we now know EVERYTHING you breathe, eat, drink, consume or are exposed to
affects DNA Leary what a liar.
http://www.hipforums.com/newforums/showthread.php?t=485765&f=420

 

Values, competitions and meanings (what things represent, stereotypically or otherwise).

What's a wife beater? I could post 5 pictures of different men wearing a wife beater and people will automatically judge them .. who the best and worst looking is, who is most and least likely to be an actual wife beater, who looks most intelligent or stupid, etc.

 

I don't like being judged as being judgmental. Fuck anyone that is judgmental of my judgmental ways.

 

The problem with these allegations of being "judgemental", is that its often JUDGEMENTAL people who are making the allegations ie hypocrits.

And that includes any person who calls me an "idiot" for defending the rights of kids to have a MOTHER AND FATHER, instead of 2 shock fetishists. Pot and kettle is the phrase springs to mind

Making judgements is part of whats called a CIVILISED society. A society with no values, no proper codes, no rules isn't a society. Its hell on Earth. Most people don't judge on everything, just on things they consider important. Western society has things like free speech and freedom of opinion. But extremists try to take that away when they lose the argument.

All sensible, decent people make judgements. The question is whether judgments are valid and based on relevant facts. If someone judges me, I don't give a shit. But the insecure, the tyrants and the loonies are afraid of judgement. Why is that? As Shakespeare said, "methinks the lady protests too much.."