Also, on the subject of sex and the rights of people to a sexual outlet. You know, masturbation is always a good way of relieving sexual tension, whether you are a man or a woman. And it can be your sex life too. I'm serious. It may be all you need. Why not? If that is all you have access to. Or even all that you want. Back in the 80's, there was this story. A doctor in the Netherlands asked a young teenage girl if she was sexually active. She said yes. He said, well who's your boyfriend then. She said I don't have a boyfriend. I just masturbate. The point being that was enough for her. I think it all depends of definition too. But yours, not just society's. You know Bill Clinton once said, about how people define things, sex and other things, "It depends on what the meaning of the word 'is' is." (I voted both times for President Clinton BTW.) I was also going to say about the Netherlands, in the 1980's. In the US, the media made them seem like the bastion of sexual openness and freedom. And while it's true, they had legalized prostitution there then. (Actually they had TOLERATED prostitution, which is something different.) But they weren't really anymore open-minded, at least as a society. John Kelly was interviewing a man on local Kelly & Company. He had been to the Netherlands recently. And he said the people there didn't seem anymore open-minded on average than we were. They were even a little close-minded in some ways, he thought.
On a funny note, a judge once asked a blond woman, was she sexually active. She said, No, I just sort of lie there". Much laughter followed.
What is sex tome? Now, at 70 I have a frigid wife. I haven't slid gracefully into a woman, any woman for 18 or more years as I recall. Sex to me has been the willing participation of two, with enough lust present for it to be fulfilling. Up to 12 years ago, with the consent of my uninterested wife, sex was mutual oral and masturbation with one or two male friends. All ingredients were present, mutual lust, mutual active participation, pleasure and relief in giving and receiving, and the happy release of everyone's sperm. Having a cock in my mouth and mine in theirs was my go to of necessity. Now it's me and my memories I've written down, the chatting with others here mostly, and my hand and my penis.
Any manipulation of your genitals for the purpose of sexual pleasure is having sex. Be it solo or with a partner. You don't have to penetrate or be penetrated in the pussy, anus, or mouth. Getting a hand job from someone is having sex with that someone. That someone does not have to be gender specific either. As long as your genitals are stimulated you're having sex.
