What was the hardest part of being gay for you?

So Far I'm still trying to tell my parents I'm gay but its been Hard What about you.

 

The hardest part was to realize and accept myself as a gay. It took me years to do that. There was no such word "gay" in my place when i was trying to acknowledge the strange thinking, feelings inside of me. Being gay is still considered as a very bad thing in my place

 

You must think you're offending us or something....

 

anti gay...? are you thirteen?

 

The hardest part is always 'fitting in".Parents,social agenda,whatever.I've met so many people that think I've made a "choice" by being gay.If they all saw the reality,they'd know,and accept me as I am.The whole thing sucks on many levels,but you know what?I'm happy being me

 

Yeah, that's definitely true for me too, and I'm not even out to everybody yet. It just seems that fitting in with "everybody else" has always been hard because of an invisible line.

But I've found some good friends along the way.

 

For me the hardest part was my mother's reaction. Disgusting reactions, that I won't repeat. But being a bisexual, and now being with a boy, she thinks I'm cured Oh well, at least she's off my back...

 

The hardest part, is that we all grow up in this anti-gay world. Our history is filled with abuse toward gay people. But the world is changing for the better. Each generation brings new talent, new energy and new insight to the table. That's why things are getting better.

The worst thing is that most gay people grow up in an anti-gay environment and find little support in the outside world either. So, we're all a little messed up from that. I still have to remind myself that my gay brothers and sisters may be hurting in ways I am unfamiliar with. But we still have each other.

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I hate that I'm not respected by many. It doesn't matter how much I may have changed I'll still be less to them. That bothers me. But I suppose I brought it upon myself.

 

The hardest part for me is keeping it from my parents, I've only just realised that I'm bi and my friend said I should make absolute sure before I tell my mum, I have no idea how she'd take it, bit scared she'll totally flip out and the same about my step-dad, I get the feeling he'll disown me But I don't know! Also, a hard thing to do was tell a friend for the first time, but she was really supportive

 

The hardest part is finding a place to fit in. I don't care if most of the people around me don't like it or don't get it. I am really looking for a place where I'm around people who I can relax with. The gay people in this town are very cliquish, very unfriendly. I'm thinking more and more seriously about moving.

 

it's people like you that make a big deal out of the fact that someone's gay that make some people feel like they're strange because of it. being gay isnt an illness or a state of mind it's what you are.. just like you're obveously straight.... you can't change it and it wont help by denying it either.. and why are you even commenting in this forum if you're not gay.....?.....

the hardest part for me used to be accepting that i was bi-sexual. at first i thougt it was just me wondering, but as time passed i knew it was serious. but now that i have accepted it, the hardest part is telling my family that im bi-sexual. my family is completely against gays and when there was a gay pride parade on the news my family was all wathching it and they talked about how nasty they though it was. so i know that they'll have alot to say when i finally come out and tell them....

 

the anti-gay people and str8s who think there is something wrong with you.

 

You don't seem to understand. Are you able to quit being strait? How about change your race? Your eye color? Your hair color? These things are the way they are and can't be changed. Sure, you could use contacts on your eyes, and hair color on your hair, but these don't really change your eyes or hair, they just temporarily cover them. It is the same way with sexuality, you can't change who you are attracted, you can only teperarily pretent to be attracted to someone else. Permanant change just is not possible, just like you could never permanantly change and be gay.
Also, since you "hate gay people" yet you take the time to associate with us and post in our forum (rather contradictory, isn't it?) why not while your here, give good logical reasons for not liking people based on their sexual orientation?

 

...ignore it

 

I told my mum when I started going out with a girl... now that we're not, she thinks that it was a phase. It's only come up once since the first time - which is when it ended. I told her and she was smiling so much. I felt sick; I can't even be bothered with her.

I've got two older brothers so I was meant to be the young girly girl, but I'm really not, and it annoys her.

I'm not telling my dad until I've moved out. It would be too awkward, for too long.

 

the same, I cannot even tell my friends, so how could i tell my family?

 

for me, I've been lucky int hat poeple have accpeted me, and that I dont have to worry about coming out because everyone in New Hope is really nice and doesn't care if you are gay.

The hardest part for me is finding other gay people. I feel quite alone sometimes, even though I know there are other gay people around.

But it isn't that bad. I'm lucky to live where I live.

Cheers, and Much Love,
Dylan

 

The hardest part for me right now is working up the guts to not care what people think. I've told my parents, and a few of my very accepting friends. But I have some friends who might take it differently, and that would obviously make our friendships more awkward. People have responded to that statement by saying, "Is it really worth being friends with them if they're not going to accept you for who you are?" I'm having trouble with that, because as much as I agree with that, I still really care about them and I care about my friendship with them.

And what Dylan said. I do feel kind of lonely sometimes.

 

Yeah, I was really depressed recently thinking that I'll never get a girlfriend...but then I got over it a little bit! But also, I found it hard to come to terms with because of my religion (Christian), my friend said something that cheered me up a bit when I told her, and I kind of feel better about it, but it will hang over my shoulder for a while I think