What Turns A Relationship Off?

Many times throughout life we get in to relationships which end by one or the other choosing to end it and for whatever reason that may be. For me? I find it very hard to "trust" men. My insecurities have gotten the best of me in the process of trying to build a relationship.

I have made milestones in that field; no matter what those little voices say inside me; I try to catch myself and turn my fears around. I think the worst thing that you can do in "any" relationships is doubt the other person. It somehow puts a "damper" on feelings and if not by body language or by tone of voice; things you say; questioning the other person on a consistent basis. Over a period of time, which doesn't take long, the other person gets tired of the chaos and walks away. I, also, find that it's how you look at a relationship. Don't assume what you "think" is going on; don't "assume" that someone feels a certain way; and, lastly "don't "assume" from past experiences. New person; new relationship.... Letting go of fears is hard to deal with. But? With the right man understanding and caring about you, he will hold your hand in the difficult spots. I, also, find that it's easier to assume responsibility for your actions and not blame your partner. Example: If you boyfriend/husband comes home 2 hours late? How do you repsond? "You're late; why?".... Think about assuming responsibility for how that made you feel and not blaming him for being late which upset you? A positive, yet blameless reaction to him being late. "I was looking forward to spending some time with you tonight. It hurt my feelings that you were late." I'm sure you'll get two totally different responses.

For women, I think it's how they handle themselves and whether or not they appear "needy" to a man. Men just don't like "needy" women. They want a woman that can stand on her own two feet and who can make her own decisions.

What's your opinion? What turns a relationship off for you?

 

reasons why ive broken up with boys in the past:
we grew apart
the sex got bad (it was more fuckbuddy than bf/gf)
he was moving away
i didnt want him to touch me anymore
and he was a flake (actions never matched words and chronically late)

 

Most of the time, relationships end when both people grow apart; usually when something new happens, like starting university for instance. Insecurity and constant jelousy can also have a negative effect on the relationship, but you can't really trust someone 100%, there's always going to be that little bit left over, which is fine, but when it's just constant nagging and silly arguments, i don't see the point continuing with the relationship.