What to say to a girl I've recently met?

Alright, so I've been talking with this girl through emails for awhile, and recently she gave me her IM name and we had our first conversation tonight. It went pretty well, but I'm really socially awkward (and I'm pretty sure she is too), so it's difficult for me to keep a conversation going (especially if the person isn't with me face to face). I mean, I asked her a lot of the basic "get to know you" stuff, and we have a lot in common, but I'm just really not sure what else we could talk about. I was wondering if you guys had any advice on how I could loosen up when I'm talking with her? Or advice on things to talk about, or what to say... or anything really, I'm completely new to this. I've really always found it hard to get past that first stage of getting to know someone and becoming comfortable around them, so how can I do this more easily?

 

I've seen more and more of these threads... And I just have one question.


When the fuck did people start dating over teh internetz???

man up and actualy ask her on a date.. Unless I live in a bubble, and this is actualy normal, in which case..

...:rofl:.:rofl:.:rofl:...

 

i don't think internet dating is that unusual. i still don't understand how you even got her email in the first place if you don't know her though. did you just send out emails to 1000 random addresses and hope that one wrote back?

send her penis pics, that should liven things up.

 

Why dont you send her some funny stuff,like vids off youtube ect.... things you can both giggle abot together?

Me and my blokie dated on the net for a while,that was like 5 years ago and we used to send each other funny links,songs we liked.

Ask her about her day,what shes got planned on the weekend?

 

What? I'm not dating her on the internet, I'm just talking with her. I was planning on asking her out soon, assuming I don't do something incredible stupid...

 

Dude, I suggest you forget this how to know you stuff- that's how a conversation stagnates, 'cos you're just going through the motions.

Obviously humor is key. I do alright with women, talking is one of my better qualities I suppose. From personal experience, I tease girls. Nothing mean or bitter, I just tease and self deprecate

You'll find things out about each other on the way. Just get the funny stuff flowing! Talk to them like they are a mate, or family member. Let that ring true in your head.


With a tease, is the perfect chance of a compliment. Obviously you WOULDN'T use this one, buut

'You smell terrible!'

'Whattt?'

'Only joking, you actually smell, and look really nice.'


You might think a lot of this sounds stupid. But I find some women aren't into having some fun, and those ones you don't want to bother with anyways. Pop me into a situation with a Barbie who doesn't properly know her own name

I look like a lost cause. But am I, or are they? Just take a risk and don't be afraid to open up and not be quite so formal.


I wish you nothing but luck, feel free to ignore what I say but that's just how I role.

 

Oh wait, not sure if you're just on about instant messages. Sorry, if that's the case I don't know properly.

 

That was helpful, thank you.

 

The very first thing you need to do is trust in your instincts, if you feel you should do something, try it out, see what happens. Purely listening to the advice of others as opposed to whats inside you is almost like ignoring what you actually want to say, which can create this fake persona that has holes in it that some people perceive as being fake, but Im no expert on this, so I guess don't listen to me completely here, just remember that whats in your heart are just as, if not more important than any lines that other people will tell you.

By the way, i dont think there's anything wrong with online dating.