Hey all, this is my first post here! Looks like a great site, and I'm excited to be a member of it. I'm a 19 year old male and I currently attend Ohio State as a sophomore in college. My situation is this: I've completely fallen for one of my closest friends, and I don't know if I should tell her or not. To be more specific, I met her freshman year, she lived on the same floor as me in my dorm. Everyone on my floor were really close and we were all friends, so, of course we became friends over the year. We got to know each other pretty well winter quarter because we had a class together. At this point, I was not attracted to her, I only looked at her as a friend. This year, she and her best friend/roommate(who I am also friends with) would come over to my dorm room a lot to hang out with me and my roommate (who is also their friend). A couple weeks in, I began to develop feelings for her. At first I thought it was just a physical attraction, so I shrugged it off and tried to ignore it. But I couldn't. Everytime she was around my feelings for her intensified. I am now at the point where I literally can't take my mind off her, to be cliche I'm head over heals for her. Problem is, she's fallen for a guy who currently lives on my floor, who I am also friends with. They're not exactly dating, but theyre about as close to dating as you can get. So now I'm stuck in this situation where I'm in love with my best friend who is attracted to someone else, the classic situation many have been in before. What do I do? Do I tell her now? Do I wait and see what happens between her and this guy? Or do I just live with it and never tell her and keep our great friendship the way it is?
Go for it dude. Just tell her how you feel, ask her to give you a chance and take her out on a good date and make it worth her while.
Tell her how you feel and maybe she might feel the same way to. It wont hurt to ask. And even if she doesnt feel the same maybe she will sometime, just keep being friends with her. Its good to ask than spend the rest of your life wondering what would have happend.
look at it in this point of view. If you dont say anything to her you wont have her. If you do say something to her you have a chance. Even if she says no, its not like you really lost since you didnt have her in the first place. Theres no shame in asking her even if she dosent have feelings back.
I wish I was as forward with women when I was your age, as I am now. Because I'm so forward I end up with women who are amazing (read "out of my league" LOL). I also get shut down a lot, but it's well worth it. Make the move. Every time. It gets easier and easier.
