cliffs: - dated a girl 2 months (6 months after she broke up her relationship of 4 years) but have never had sex - we broke up because of her emotional baggage (she dumped me) - 2 months NC - she contacted me, apologized, told me she got feelings for me and is over her ex - agree to go for a drink but I made it very clear to take everything slow - had a nice date, I went for a kiss but it ended making out - she remembered me about taking things slow and smiled Its been 2 days and I havent texted her yet. I dont want to appear overly interested, because i dont want to give her all the power like I did in the past. Also I want to see, if she is really over her ex before we have something serious. Id like to hear some advice/opinion/experiences about this. How should i act, should i text her following days? Wait for her text? Id like to have a power in this situation, but how...
See, the thing I really liked when I first met my husband was that there was no issue of "power" in the relationship.....if I wanted to talk to him, I called and if he wanted to talk to me, he called me. I think that if you are in a situation where you have to manipulate what's going on to try to have power then its not a mature relationship and she is probably not the right person. As for going "slow", I'm a fan of going with what feels right in the moment...when dating there were some I would sleep with immediatly and others it took months to get to that point, just went with the flow of what was happening. If you'd like to see her again the call or text her and arrange a date...and if on the date you both get carried away in a passionate moment, go for the gold!
^ I agree with the above. If there are games being played, call her out on it, any difficulties in the game department, leave the relationship immediately, she's not into you, she's into the games. Now, with her saying lets take it slow, if she just got out of messy 4 year relationship, that could be understandable. But I have a feeling that Rolling's advice is great, tell her fuck taking things slow, i like you, and i know you like me, lets get it on. text her immediately for another date, stop wasting time! you'll lose her to the first guy that finally breaks through her trepidation.
