I need the help of all of you out there. I have done everything I can possibly do to get this girl that I've been interested in to give me a chance. First, I agreed to help her friend get a job at the restaraunt I work at. Did that. Then I offer to drive her friend all the way to Missouri for her military graduation and bring her all the way back (which was almost 1,800 miles combined.) Just got back from that trip. But my issue is this. After all that, I still can't for the life of me figure out if it was all worth it to do those things for her or not. She shows no sign of interest towards me, at least none that I can tell. So, my question is this, what more can I do, if anything?
sorry, "grrl" wasn't in my vocabularly. Well, I'm not really qualified to give advice on this type of relationship. Best of luck though.
If he's not showing any signs of interest after making you do all that it sounds like he's kind of taking advantage of you. However, since you're a girl, just tell him how you feel. He'll let you know.
Again, it is a GIRL that I am having the issue with, not a guy. Please, people, read my post carefully before you reply.
No. Your logic is all screwed up. You're basically saying... "hey, if I do a bunch of nice things for this person it will get them to be romantically interested in me". Now does that make any sense to you?? Cause it certainly doesn't make sense to me.
Well, I already don't know how to handle this since she is the first girl I have openly shown an interest in. She knows that I like her, but I don't want to seem desperate or pushy. I'm so confused.
How does she know that? How did the conversation or scenario play itself out? This could explain a lot.
The same thing applies regardless of the genders involved... Talk to her about it. Doing favors for her, helping out her other friends, and so on... is pretty much an attempt to buy her affection with favors. Would you respond to that from someone else?
^^ Exactly. There would be far fewer posts in these forums if people stopped trying to play mind games and just talked to the other people involved. There are a lot of people on here who will tell you to play these kinds of games, as well as what exactly you should do, etc. This advice may seem better than saying 'just talk to them' because it gives them some kind of strategy to follow; but really, that shit never leads anywhere good. Just discuss the issue.
Is the girl your interested in gay as well? If not she may just be seeing these things you are doing as simple acts of kindness for a friend. Speak to her! Clarify the situation and if she is not interested sexually or romantically, move on!
