what makes a guy attractive

Well, there are women in OC who say in their dating personals that men are to bring their W-2s to the first date for verification of amount of money they make.

 

This is why I have given up on looking for love. It will come along when it decides to..

 

ewwwwwwww that;s horrible. I don't care how much money a guy makes as long as he can pay his bills and is financialy responsible (ie no debts in collections or late bills). The guy I'm seeing right now is really wealthy, has several homes and cars. He comes from really old money and it really intimidates me because my family I still talk to on my moms side is not rich and I grew up very poor the first few years after my mom left my dad, lived in low-income housing the whole deal. You would never have guessed it because my grandparents helped out a lot but the few years my mom and them didn't get along we were really poor without their help. My mom worked really hard and makes a very good living now and my grandparents still give her money each year in an account for luxuries because they do very well. I guess I just don't want to live a life like I grew up. I want to be able to not just have nice things (its not about that) but send my kids to a cool artsy private school (if i have kids), take cool enrichment classes and not worry about the fee. I want to maintain the lifestyle I have now, I like being comftrable and men have very big egos too (not in a bad way) they like being the provider so it may cause rifts if I make mor than my future husband.

 

Old money rocks. Keep this guy if you can.

 

I wondered if this would add one to your list... heh...

 

So you want someone to maintain your lifestyle for you? I understand where you are coming from, I think thats how a lot of people think. I have thought about getting in a situation like that, which might be worth it if real love never comes around. Get me a sugamama.

 

haha well I like him a lot, haven't slept with him yet though, kinda holding out to see if things go anywhere. I like him because he doesn't flaunt his money either and he never talks about it. I went out with a guy who went on and on all the time about how much money his parents made evertime he drank. I mean I shit you not one night he talked about it until I flat out told him he was being tacky and he shouldn't talk about things like that. It was such a turn off that he was tha insecure and used that to hide it. I think he was insecure that at the time he didn't make a lot of money, which I really didn't care about he always showed me a nice time. I just wish he could have been himself but he was kind of a game player and that turned me off too. I was so good and loyal to him prior to him taking me for granted and then Ijust never wanted to answer his calls and I dated people behind his back hoping he would become real and honest and secure enough to not play games. I've just never in my life sated somone who did that I just sat there in shock thinking how weird it was. I just don't want to deal with that crap again but I guess I learned what to watch out for next time.

 

no, somone who made a similar amount to me would be fine. I just want somone who will at least contribute equally to maintaning OUR lifestyle. Plus I don't want to fight about money and less money problems would equal less fighting about money. I've never fought about money in a relationship and don't want to it seems like a stupid petty reason to fight.

 

It's the root cause of 70% of divorces, lyns.

But keep in mind the days of "I make enough to support our every need" are LONG GONE.

 

They're not when I lived with my ex-fiance i didn't work, just went to school and he paid my bills. Anwho, that's okay I don't want somone to totally support me I love my job. I just work at a non-profit and want to continue doing so. I'm just saying i would never want to be the bread winner in a relationshio...but I don't make a lot so I don't think that's a difficult aspiration hahhhh

 

New list:
ability to be open and honest
good hearted
understanding
trustful and trust worthy
forgiving
empathetic
compasionate
loving
caring
able to give and recieve affection
ready to embark on beauty
open minded
spiritual in some way or form
protective
loving
good conversationalist-the kind of man where you talk all night long and make love and then talk some more and fall asleep holding each other and talking
accepting

 

well, cooloner, give us your list for what makes a guy attractive.

 

oh and still loves dogs!!!!!!!!!!! :d

 

my "list"

honest
loyal
open minded
sexually compatible
will at least tolerate my 3 cats (they go, I go.. they are my kids)
cares about his health
wants kids (someday and not anytime soon)
affectionate who likes to cuddle and kiss (not minding small amounts of PDA is a plus)
willing to compromise

Those are the particulars I tend to look for in a partner the most..

Qualities that I find attractive but definetely NOT required: (consider it like... bonus points)

spontanious
skinny with dark spikey hair
has a pick-up truck or motorcycle
bisexual
has eclectic musical taste
artistic
pagan
a hopeless romantic
shy
likes to travel
smokes weed
can dance
likes to cook

 

I really don't think its that rare. It really can't be that rare!

 

d'oh

 

I have something for the guys with long hairs (it`s obvius,isnt it.).Long,beautiful,black hair,dark eyes.I don`t know....i stll belive in that one true love (so silly) and i belive one day i`m gona find that one guy u know.Every person on the worl have another one made only for him and he/she is somwhere there.And if we belive one day we`re gona find that one person,the SOULMATE! (I know i`m 2 romantic,dont say it hehe)

 

no shoes

 

long hair and a sexy mouth

 

You know the dude in your sig pic is on CSI now? He was way hot in that movie though