what makes a guy attractive

Probably watched to much sex and the city!

 

actually I'm not really single and this is the first time I haven't been in a 'serious' relationship since I was 17...okay I have more to add to my list:
masculine
not obsessed with his appearance but looks nice when duty calls
not possesive but caring
lets me wear what I want ie-does not say 'no that's too low cut you can't wear that or your ass looks too good in that take it off'
securre but not cocky
cultured
up to date on current events
is not greedy
likes to party hard once in awhile but also likes blockbuster nights
well traveled ( and a desire to make me well traveled is a plus lol)
good taste in movies ( I hate stupid humor)
caring
seeking commintment but not baby crazy
smells nice
does not use too much hair product but does something with it everyday
oh and adores me...that's a big plus hehe

 

This is typical of women. It's always borderline.

It's like "here's the tightrope, and just about every guy is on one or the other wrong side of it."

 

Bascially you want someone to provide everything for you. Treat you like a queen no matter how big of a bitch and controlling you become. Do everything you ask on command with no questions. Bwahahaha GOOD LUCK!!! It's that list in woman's heads that takes all the fun out of people. You don't want a good guy, you want a damn robot. I don't know if your meaning to come off this way but, that is exactly how it sounds.

 

Nickmast: this is very common, so common in fact as to be Standard Female Behaviour, almost.

 

No, I want somone to not play games (add that to the list), be him self, be responsible and have a good heart and in return I want to make them the happiest man on earth. I am such a nice girl and a killer girlfriend until the guy hurts me or takes me for granted. I'm loyal and sweet and make him a huge priority in my life but when the games start coming or when my lovingness is taken for granted I turn very selfish and think of the guy as just another dude to have a good time with for awhile. But with the right guy I am the perfect girlfriend and I know this to be true because every man I've dated has said 'damn I fucked up in the begining you were a really good girl and I wasn't good to you' There's no sense in being angry just with every relationship my standards become higher because I know what will make me happy and the kind of person that I can make happy.

 

RE: No, I want somone to not play games (add that to the list),

Are you done with that list yet?

RE: be him self,

So long as it's what I want him to be

RE: be responsible

e.g. put me first

RE: and have a good heart

e.g. put me first

RE: and in return I want to make them the happiest man on earth. I am such a nice girl and a killer girlfriend until the guy hurts me or takes me for granted. I'm loyal and sweet and make him a huge priority in my life

You're looking for symbiosis, not a relationship. Forge a bond with lichen.

 

broad shoulders
has the ability to be anywhere in the world but chooses to be with me
in shape but a little chubby

actually linsey, those are the only 3 that im not, but anygirl with that long of a list of qualifications, would have to have alot to offer. things like a mountain and harem of college girls comes to mind.

 

I'm sure that doesn't take long.

 

and just to add. We can't help who we fall in love with. I have a horribly bad crush on a guy on these forums actually who is younger than me and is not my typical 'type' but if he knew about my affections and they were returned and we lived closer to each other I would throw my list out the window. True love doesn't meet a check list. Likewise I may meet a man who meets everythingon the list and there's no spark.

 

what you didn't get all your spitfulness out in the random thoughts forum?

 

haha I can do the harem of college girls...but the mountain...hmmmm

 

anyway, i have a list too.

1. i should generally prefer him to be closer than further away.

haha....
i say generally, i'm not too certain about my list yet.


with all respect lynsey, i disagree with the idea of making a list. i used to do that too, but when i was a kid in high school. i bet if i went through my old journals i'd find lists of "stuff i like", "stuff i don't like", "why josh is cooler than kevin", etc. haha....

all those things you listed make your love conditional and false. love is love whether or not a man is "up to date on current events" or "knows how to work on cars". does it really matter if a man knows how to fix a car or doesn't? is your love not directed towards something deeper than that? love doesn't shame itself to ride on ideas like "he has nicer things than me" or "he has good credit". love is just that unconditional thing coming from you, no matter what the object is or does or even thinks of your love.

what you have, in making a list, is simply a practical approach to a person you would like to live with for a long period of time. you are essentially compiling a roommate request. you cannot do the same thing for love.




peace,


sophia.

 

oh, okay you wrote this while i was speechifying. i agree with what you said here.

 

and I agree with your speech heh I'm just saying okay if I met a man and fell madly in love with him it would be nice if he possed those qualities but not 'required. I wanna curl up in the chair you have in your sig.

 

I love girls, they are cute

 

Confidence, but not to the point where they're just outright conceited.

 

RE: I have a horribly bad crush on a guy on these forums actually who is younger than me and is not my typical 'type' but if he knew about my affections and they were returned and we lived closer to each other I would throw my list out the window.

So you don't really have a list.

 

Ok I will keep my feeling for myself next time
But I love you girls

 

I have a list of what I find attractive or what would idealy fit the kind of life I want but no I am not so close minded and shallow where I am a stickler for this list and carry it in my pocket and interview potential dates but none the less it is a list(;