i love this girl she likes me a lot. all her friends tell me she thinks she loves me. i have never been with a girl before. i have no self confidence due to previous life events that i dont want to get into. i dont know what the hell to do. we were both at a party and i know she wanted to be alone w/ me but i didnt know what the hell to do. night ended poorly. my only other option i have now is to try coke to build up my confidence next time im around her. i know it gives people tons of confidence so thats my goal. does anyone know what the fuck is wrong with me and what should i do
Coke does not give a person loads of confidence. It does heighten how a person feels though. So, if you are nervous and snort a few lines you will just be kinda wired and nervous. That feeling sucks! Wouldn't it make more sense to smoke a bowl to chill out? Or, just go at it straight and enjoy the rush. Yeah, at the time butterflies in the stomach suck, but afterwards you get the "I did it!" rush which is great. All conversations start with one simple word "Hi" and if that doesn't work write her a note and have one of her friends give it to her. You could be totally cheesy (which some girls love) and write her a poem. Explain that you are shy. When I see you standing there... I cannot move I am afraid that I will say something foolish or worse, not say anything at all. You leave me speechless. You get the idea. It doesn't have to be elaborate, and I bet she will make it a point to talk to you. Dating is kind of like cliff diving. It sounds fun, but it feels like a long walk to the edge, and when you get there you want to run like hell in the other direction. Eventually after you get used to the idea it isnt quite so scarey so you jump. Sometimes you hit the water perfectly and it is a wonderful experience, other times you belly flop and it hurts like hell. Thats my long winded way of saying there is nothing wrong with you. You worry that because you are 25 and never really dated that you are somehow "broken" but you're not. A lot of people don't start dating until their mid 20's for one reason or another. I think it's weird for 14 year olds to "date" and have sex so "weird" a matter of opinion. You're going to be fine! Just take a deep breath and say that one magical word.....Hello.
You're 25 and your dick has yet to be used. That's what's wrong with you. And second, drinking builds much better confidence than cocaine, cocaine just makes you halucinate. Oh yeah, drink beer so you last longer in bed, seeing as how you haven't had sex you shouldn't just go in without any help cause chances are you'll be a dissapointment. Sorry if I sound a little harsh but if you're 25 and not overtly religious you should have had sex by now I don't care what life experiences you've been through....unless it was torture at a POW camp.
yea man the confidence has to come from within but a beer might not hurt to loosen you up a bit but id just fake it you know pretend and i dono go with the flow and let your instincts take over i guess
a beer and a bowl was always a good fix for me... coke's never my fix....so i dont know if i would recomend it....
So you think you depend on narcotics to build confidence.... how sad. Build your confidence natually through changes in your life and use beer, weed etc.. as extras for recreational use.
In my experience alcohol and other drugs (maybe with the exception of weed, but that has its own set of problems) only serve to magnify what you're feeling at the moment or to create an escape. If you're nervous or sad, it will only get worse. The fact that you love this girl and she is interested in you is such a great thing! Concentrate on how happy that fact makes you for a while until you see her next, and then just go for it. If you're not a super confident person and she is still interested in you, then she probably knows that. So the way you approach her doesn't matter, as long as you do! Good luck!
Perhaps what you need to do is: - Make tomorrow the first day of the rest of your life. Look in the mirror and make a commitment. “I will be positive and move forward”- not for others, - for yourself. Hard knocks have come,gone and will no doubt come again – such is life! It is our capacity to move on from the setbacks that makes us. Reliance on solutions that are/or become harmfully addictive, is no way to live. With respect, as a person of youth this is your day. Embrace life and don’t let it pass you by. If this girl likes you then you will find this out with the passing of time. Don’t get too heavy and enjoy the flow of the relationship. Don’t the life experiences of the past, prevent you from enjoying the future. “Seize the day” and move on – with confidence and purpose. Hope this helps (?)! < Peace + Love ~ Save the Planet >
