What is one thing you dislike about yourself?

Truthfully, I am socially inept but I like people(indirectly). I am just not good when to comes to social interaction and just lack skills. For most people, social interaction is something natural and simple but for me it is a drag and a headache. Therefore, I prefer to be alone. My parents moved a lot as child, so it could be because of that. Otherwise, social interaction is just too stimulating for me.

But, being socially inept has it is advantages it kept me away from a lot of trouble and focused on the important things in life.

 

I used to do a lot of drugs.

 

A lot of kids in high school were doing drugs, but being socially inept I was never influenced. I never felt the sense to belong. People fear being alone but I do not.

 

I sometimes dislike my own cooking - like occassionally I'll spend the whole afternoon coming up with some crazy concoction and then taste a bit of it and realise I have somehow or other managed to invent a convincing replica of cats vomit - in a dish.

I made a great curry today though.. more by luck than talent however.

 

Oh God, i may have to be greedy and list more than one, as i usually am in these threads...

Ill go for

-I over-analyse (although this is one im majorly working on fixing)
and
-I daydream too much and find it hard to act (do college work etc)

There are quite a few more But im fixing them, one by one

Xx

 

^^

Fixing myself never works, I always bounce back to my private, withdrawn, reserved self. People get the sense I dislike them because of my private, withdrawn, and reserved nature but really I don't dislike anyone. I forget and forgive easily.

Like Japanese people, I don't like eye contact. It is not fear, it is just too much stimulation and my head over thinks stuff.

 

Well, if fixings not working there are two possibilities, that i can see...
1-Youre not trying hard enough and havent got enough will and self control
or
2-it was never really a fault in the first place.

With being withdrawn, id say its probably not so much of a fault. Maybe its what youre meant to be

 

I too have the eye contact glitch - I'm ok with brief encounters and intense one to one with close friends - but stick me in a job interview situation and I have to shuffle my feet or rub my thumbs and fingers while I look them in the eye cos my head starts shaking and I am freaking out.Like my inner voice is screaming 'GET ME OUT OF HERE! NOW! GET UP - LEAVE!'
Its the flight or flee instinct - I mostly want to flee - but then - I happily traveled in a one man tent for 2 months - what a holiday! (I didn't actually travel in the tent - just slept in it at night!)

 

Captain Beefheart - Don Van Vliet was the same actually - he got up infront of the crowds at I think it was the Isle of Wight festival,and opened his mouth to sing the first song - nothing came out - he froze,had a panic attack and fell off the back of the stage.He's been living in a caravan in the desert with his wife for the latter part of life....

 

Hey meetoo and Im alot older than you I bet. I mean I had lots of people who liked me, but I would prefer to be left alone. People who meet me think Im super nce and all and will do just about anything for anyone but inside I just desire to be alone. I like people just not around me is all. The web is great since I dont have people really around me. Driving truck has really helped since I have my own little shell around me at all times. I go like nuts in malls and even Wally world (WalMart). I shop in the wee hours to avoid too many people. I love my solitude, used to joke if I ever went to prison I would smack a guard just to get that solitary confinement. Some people just are not cut out to be pressed into a group. I used to cut school so so so much, had to challenge the attendence policy to get my diploma. I passed all the needed items with flying colors, never less than a B on any test of assignment, just hated that whole being in a class with 30+ other people.

What do I hate ablout myself, simple, I have very little will power, I tend to look for reasons to break what I wanted to accomplish. It is a very bad habit.

 

Everything above affects my social life, work life, academic life, but not personal(self solitude) or close family life. It is not self control, I think I am not motivated enough to change. It is easier to remain as you are then change.

Self-conflict, one side wants total solitude and the other wants to be social but lack skills.

I don't see it as a fault, I only do so when I am out in the world.

 

I am very similar. By the way, are you by any chance a Libra(zodiac)?

 

Same here, people think I am nice, which I think I am, but once they get to know me they are put off by my desire to be alone and private. I never liked formal schooling either. I learn better at my own time, freedom, and pace. For most people high school is a good time, but for me it was a headache. I hated all the conformity.

I once read people like us, make 25% of the population(introverts).

me too, but I am gaining control.

 

Physical things
- I wish I didn't wear Glasses
- I so need to lose about 40 lbs and make it muscle for rugby this year or all the opposite team will be hitting is a pillow

Non Physical
- I overanaylse
- I worry
- I procrastinate
- I have commitment problems (ie: quitting job are job because I just don't want to do it anymore)

 

Eh... I wasted a year snorting coke and partying.

 

I dislike the fact that I very strongly need & desire human interaction, in light of my perception on people.

Many experiences throughout life have led me to see people in general dangerous, hostile, and unpredictable. It is very, very hard for me to trust people even at a rudimentary level, and in social situations I make great efforts to keep myself at a tremendous distance (in terms of how I express myself) in order to maintain a sense of control over my own circumstances. I can directly manage and do something about other needs like food, shelter, water, etc, but such is not the case with interpersonal interaction, as there's nothing I can do to guarantee my own safety (except for painful social isolation which is almost as depressing as opening myself up to people). Hence, pouring this frustration via the internet where I feel safer to do so (as expressions of this nature are socially taboo anyway.)

 

Physical things don't bother me much as mental things expect for a healthy body image. I am mental/rational person.

I can commit to things I like or have interest in or things absolutely necessary. I don't care about money but I force myself to do because we live in a world, where money is necessary.

 

I wasted a year trying to avoid formal education because of all the authority, hierarchy, subjective grades, and conformity.


Every child is different, some children home schooling is good for them, some private school are good for them, and some public schools are good for them. Some prefer smaller classes and some bigger.

 

wow, you are like the opposite of me. I desire to be alone.

me too, I tend be very suspicious of people's motives. On the other hand, I don't think evil exists, I believe there is a reason why it exists. I tend look at the good side and positive of people than negative or evil.

 

alone in the comort of my own mind.

it feels..............good