What is it that turns us on by seeing our wife with another guy?

I did three ways with my late wife on numerous occasions over the 15 years we were together and we enjoyed it greatly. We both did our own thing a few times as well. She passed away at 33 due to brain cancer. So sad. My current wife knows about my past and my desires for 3ways but is just not on board, she says it makes her feel un-or not special if I would let her have sex with another guy, or that I didn't love her as much. We have had numerous discussions about this subject and there are glimmers of hope at times that she might allow herself to enjoy such an activity, She has asked me why I like this and all I can come up with is it is so very hot. This leaves me asking myself why do I like seeing my wife with another guy and I don't really have an answer. It turns me on I guess. She thinks that I am one of a few or altogether alone in this feeling and I tell her I am not and she just says I am a justifier, lol. It is not that I want to have sex with the other guy because I could have done that and didn't want to, wasn't my thing. I just enjoy seeing her get pleased by someone other than myself, It makes me go crazy loving on her afterword's. Is it that our wives are a possession that we can share if we so choose? Is it the humility of it? I don't know but it is hot. Who knows today I may feel way different than in the past if my current wife did go thru with it and I may regret it greatly afterwards, I just don't know. She thinks I would only enjoy it while I was turned on and as soon as I got off that I would then regret it or even get mad and hold it over her in some way. Sigh!!

 

you get a better view of her pain/pleasure.

the other guy may pound her better than you do

it's wrong/dirty, and only for a brief moment, but you don't care.

etc. etc.

the sharing thing is I suppose something someone in your circle can relate to.

 

Very good point thank you.

 

The real reason why a man would share his "woman", either wife or girlfriend, with other men is that he puts her pleasure first! He knows that she can have a more orgasmic experience if she is fucked by more men than him! This is the start of a really good relationship, when the husband is willing to do whatever is necessary to give his wife sexual pleasure!

Been there! Done that!

 

That is what I think as well John. I am not worried that if we did go thru with it that the third guy might steal her away. Heck if that is the case she would have probably found another guy anyway. I know in the past with my late wife, it was funny how one friend that we had three ways with tried to steal her away. He was like! I would never let another guy be with you if you were my wife. Lol didn't work, and by the way I had been with his wife a few years before when I was in a 5 way with them and another couple all set up by his wife. Oh yeah they ended up divorced some time later. To bad.
I like my wife to have all the pleasure she can achieve. I like for her to have some variety and I think it helps her feel more attractive when she can have another guy respond to her sexually and see how wanted she is aside from what I show her. Guys have always hit on her because she is beautiful and she has always been flirty with guys since I have been with her. No harm no foul.

 

what's the condom/STD check-up procedures on these things?

 

Both condom and Clean bill of health form the doctor is optimal, esp in todays environment. Back when I did before it was primarily done with only a couple of very close select friends and they were married or just divorced and that was it. Trust is all we went on then. Dangerous and lucky. It was all bareback back then as well. Today wouldn't risk it at all. Today it would be current clean bill of health and protection.