Aiight ... First thread of mine in the relationships forum ... :mickey: Now, like I'm talking to my girlfriend and stuff.. And she said she loves me... So then she says "but I don't have an emotional connection with you" and then she asked me if I had one with her and I don't know what the hell that is 0-o... So I googled it and all I get are these long ass responses ... Can someone give me a good quick idea what it is... I'm lost ?-?
sounds like "it's not you, it's me." in other words, "i don't want to date you anymore even though i don't hate you and don't want to hurt your feelings, so i'll make up a bullshit excuse."
If love is not an emotional connection, then I can only assume that it is what it usually is beyond all the hypocrisy around it: codependence, and the lust for possession.
It means she loves you (i.e. as an okay part of the human race) but she is not in love with you (i.e. you're not that special to her).
This. I'm sorry to be blunt on this one OP, but I don't think she loves you. Love IS an emotional connection. You feel this shit, and it makes you cry. It makes you cry because it's beautiful, and sometimes it makes you cry because it hurts. Well, that's what it does to me... I'm not sure what it does to her, actually. *shrug* At any rate, good one Cherea. :2thumbsup:
She is hanging around waiting for someone better, of for you to get bored and break it off. Stop paying the bills and you will speed up her departure.
Does her emotional state effect your emotional state? Does her being happy make you happy? Does her being unhappy make you unhappy? Not "Does her complaining/gushing make you un/happy", but "Does your perception of her happiness effect your own"?
If you are sleeping with her, and she is paying her share, don't worry about it. She will leave eventually.
sounds like shes loves you but not lovesyoulovesyou and is wanting to take the next step after you open up and make that emotional connection
To me would be like when I'm thinking something and my wife is too and says it and we both go oh I was just thinking the same thing! Which my wife and I are uncanny for in all situations no matter what we do we can observe the same thing and reach the same conclusion in our minds and it's honestly rediculous how often this actually happens. That's an emotional connection to me I think. That's where you know you're right together because it doesn't happen like that with anybody else.