This girl that i knew from my mom's .church, yada yada we started talking and our first phone call lasted 4 hrs, I ask her out and i pick her up, i had no idea where we were going, after driving a little i tell her and i suggest a trip to the park. we talk, (with awkward silence everyonce in a while) hold hands, kiss and eventually dry hump both of us shirtless in my car for like almost two hrs. Things seem great, two days later i see her again at around 4:30 am, we really wanted to see each other. we talk and eventually start messing around until mornig rose. we say goodbye. After that we talk on the phone. and when things seem to be going suprisingly good. She tells me that she still has feelings for her ex and that i reminded her of him. When she breaks up with me today saying that she didn't want to lead me on. We still talked, and saw each other at church today. We hugged and i kissed her on the cheek. I want her more now. When i showed more confidence today she seemed to notice and responded well to it. Totally confused, suprised, and in denial.
It's only natural to want something more when you can't have it. What's with the dry humping for 2 hours? No sex before marriage? =P Anyway she's sending mixed signals. Tell her that she needs to accept that she and her ex are no longer together. It's hard to do but time helps heal the heartbreak. Has she just recently broken up with him? If it's been a year or so and she's still like that get out now. That's not a good sign. Sounds like you two were doing well. Talk to her about it and get things squared away.
she's really into the church so no sex. i'm not sure when they broke up. I knew the guy, we have the same taste in a lot of stuff we even have the same birthday. I guess that kinda freaked her out.
That's a shame though. That you're so similar to her ex that it drives her away. A real shame. I could imagine being in her shoes in that situation though....
well tomorow i'm gonna go see my shrink, so hopefully i'll feel better. Thinking back my lack of confidence played a part too. i'm 17 and a virgin i'm not ugly but that only gets you so far. She said i was a shy version of her ex, that bothered me kinda.
Ahh, virgin dating, splendid. Hmmm, let's see, I haven't done that in, 6 years. Okay, well, this is actually quite common. Here me out to what I mean by common. Female virgins, especially religious ones, as they get older, are more and more harder to have a true relationship with. The problem is due to their religion and probably their parents and the lack of sensuality they become very inconsistent. They may want to hug and kiss you one day and a week later be cold. My advice, welllllll....you might not want to get mixed up. It depends how old she and you are. Are you like 17/18 and she, 15 16, 17? Or are you in your 20s and she's just turned 18? There are big differences. What I notice about many virgin couples who end up getting married and are religious is that they date from like 14, holding hands etc. Then get married at 19 or 20. Again, I'm not sure who you are or your and her's situation. From your little info I would guess her ex boyfriend is not really her ex, meaning she might have been seeing this fella for quite a while and when they have an argument or when she gets upset she tries to find another guy to be with to make her feel better. Now, is that confusing for you?
