when all you attract to you are people who your in return are not attracted to? i mean a physical attraction isnt as overrated as people say... you know what you can be with for a long time... but what happens when you start to notice that evryone that is receptive to you seem to only want to change who you are? shyt i work soooo much to save enough money for this eco-village im working on starting that i dont have anytime to "go out" and when i go to shows and things im looked at like i dont belong there mainly cuz im black...so i then try the whole internet thing and wouldnt you know every deprived housewife and social reject wans to say hi, hook up, whatever but the moment i begin to say who iam and what i am about i get the usual beratting and tongue lashing that comes with the territory but damn... is it possible that my mate isnt attainable? why does the want of a relationship become a turn off? how is that?i thought most women wanted love and family and all the good stuff but instead... my experience has taught me to just just shut up and fuck the broad...so i decided to become celibate cuz people should have more in common than sex and cell phones... atleast i want more... i came to a realization today that i may be single the rest of my life... not a pleasent thought but one i could live with if all im going to be is an instrument in full filling some horny young ladys' sexual urges... love should come at a lower price with better quality of results? sure sex is great but knowing who the person is and whats to be would be so much better! where are all the women that want an emotional aswell as a physical relationship?
I think you've just pointed out what everyother person would like to point out, but cannot attain. Your honesty is welcomed, old soul. These days women want to know what they're getting physically before they have the opportunity to interact. See divorce rates. I myself, am on the edge of 30ish, have no prospects of having children in the future, don't believe there is one person out there for everybody and am looking for a life mate at this moment. Chemistry, sexual attraction, physical attraction counts. All bullshit, annoyances, issues will be dealt with as they come. If i can't hang, i'll be sure to let you know. This is my philosophy on sex and relationships today. As for you, threadstarter, i do believe your life mate is attainable. You are picky and particular and that, my friend, is nothing to be ashamed of.
I don't really like being attracted to people physically... that's just me. I just like loving someone for who they are as a person and looks can be deceiving, sometimes. I just like a sense of closeness and trust.
