What Do I Do?

Okay... so i was going out with this girl a couple of years ago. We met in class. It was cool, and everything seemed to be going perfectly. I actually fell in love for the first time with her.

But then one night I slipped up. Me and her friend were texting, and I asked her her bra size. It was a pretty harmless question, and we didn't do anything past that. But my girlfriend found out and more or less dumped me.

We remained good friends after that, and were on and off. I've confessed my love to her a number of times, and each time I got the "it just wasn't met to be" or the "i don't feel the same" response.

However, we're still best friends. We know everything there is to know about each other, and that bond is just so strong that nothing can really come between it.

Which is a problem, because i still have strong feelings for her. I can't cut her out of my life if i wanted to. We're too close.

I've dated other girls, but it's just not the same. I'm always thinking of her. I know she's no good for me and yet I continue to talk with her for hours on end.

It feels like i'm stuck between a rock and a hard place. I know it's kinda my fault, but I don't know what to do.

Thoughts?

 

obviously she's not into you; the bra size thing was just an excuse to get rid of you, or else she's a petty bitch that you shouldn't bother with anyway.

i know you said you can't cut her out of your life, but that's the only way you're going to get over her.

 

I know a dude like you! But shit, you just gotta' get that mind set out man, OUT! You know what you gotta' do? Fuck, fuck as much as you can. Nuff' said.

 

thanks for the advice. i think it works for the OP as well.

 

I know she's not into me. I am in the ever-dreaded "freind-zone".

The question is.... where do I proceed from here? This girl is the best friend i've ever had and the most amazing person I've ever met.

 

in my experience, the only way to move on is to not see her for a long time.

is her friendship really worth the misery that spending time with her causes?

 

I say move on and forget about her... that's what I'd do.

 

Well, that's not gonna happen. I see her in class every day.

And too some degree. She's the only person i trust completely. she keeps me sane, and ironically makes me crazy at times.

 

Accept it. That's all you can do.

 

easier said then done... but yeah, that's pretty much what i've been trying to do.

 

What do you want us to tell you?

You need to forget about her! Is it that hard? So what she's your best friend, but she makes you miserable. Stop acting like there is another option and forget about her! In my opinion I think its completely stupid that you're making such a big deal about it. Either you'll be friends (which is all you're gonna be) or you have absolutely no relationship with her.

Oh and by the way just cause you have class with her doesn't mean you have to talk to her. Its not that hard to cut someone out of your life (especially if that person makes you completely miserable.) Trust me you'll feel better once she's out of your life. The more you see her the worse its gonna get. So there ya go these are you options. You can accept them or you can deny them and be miserable just to keep that chick as a friend.

 

Yeah, this situation sucks. But, I mean for real, shes just being a real bitch to you putting you in the 'friend zone' like that. You know if you stop talking to her and shit, and then like see her much later on (like years or whatever) that friend zone shit is meaningless. Stop letting her lead you on, you will never be happy. For real.