What attracts us

To the assholes and jackasses...

I mean guys complain that "the nice guys always lose" why is that? and what attracts us to go for the asshole? Most women need a nice guy and some need an asshole...not like a true asshole but one who isnt ALWAYS there..

I went out with one nice guy...after a month...I couldnt stand him...he was too nice IMO and a bit clingy...and always there for me..even times i didnt want him to be there....Im attracted to hmm sarcastic..assholes...to me...they give me my space..I have quick arguments with them and im good..they dont give me the advice that i want...that tells me that i deal with my own problems..i have no problem with that...makes me a stronger person...they're less reliable to you....theres a lot of different kinds of assholes...sarcastic...not very loving...ect..

but a lot of women like that...It "fits" them and they can deal with that..

So I want to hear what attracts/attracted you to an asshole you really liked...again...dont label "asshole" as a complete moron...there are different kinds...

The ones where your family says "hes a bit...mean isnt he?" but you like that about them...thats kinda like "your nice guy"

 

I've never really been attracted to assholes. If I did, I was half delusional and convinced they weren't assholes at all.

 

i have no idea. i don't put up with assholes and jerks in a relationship. i needle them relentlessly from the comfie of my own couch.

 

the assholes are usually the weakest in the dungeon, they break first and cry like little bitches....that turns me on, thus why I'm attracted to them.....

 

i dunno, man, i don't know any women with jerks or assholes. i hear about this, but all the women i know are with nice guys.

 

except my mom. my dad's an asshole, but then, so's my mom. in the bestest funniest way.

 

dunno.. I think you need to find a guy with a balance between asshole and nice guy.
I got me a nice guy, but he's still an asshole. not to me coz he knows I'll punch him, but he's still an asshole.

 

sometimes, confident and strong can be mistaken for asshole and jerk. All the other guys think he's an asshole but he may be treating the woman like a queen. just my $.02

 

I think men will treat you the way you allow then to treat you. I make it clear from the get-go that I will not allow any douchbaggery, and demand respect if you expect the same in return. As soon as that is made clear, any attempts at being an ass, leads to a door slamming in your face. Plain and simple.

 

i get a kick outta certain people being assholes. i do. when they're doing it iin a funny way or are just kinda oblivious to their assishness. but true, deep to the core mean really bugs me. i don't treat well people who don't treat me well. i think that's fairly simple. but everyone gets moody and no one should be permanently hated for it.

so i kinda have a hard time with this whole "men/women are jerks, it's all their fault" thing. everyone can be a jerk sometimes. i guess it's jsut a matter of timing and tolerance and whether tolerance of a few bad moments here and there is worth it.

 

You're attracted to assholes, like myself, because we're cool.

Ha.


Naww, I consider myself the nice guy, all of the girls I've ever known have liked that. That or the rebel side to meh. xD

 

well, i got my fill of the super-emotional, artsy guy. it's not that there was anything in herently wrong with him, but there was a distinct lack of mutuality.

i mean, i was always pretty small. short, i mean. and a bit of a shy wimp. i was forever being bullied. but after i got together with him, i ended up having to be his bodygaurd, mother, counselor and diplomat. he was forever pitching fits at people he had no hope of beating in a fight. thank GOD they respected me enough to look at me and tell me to get my man under control instead of beating the living fuck out of his skinny ass. i was tired of being the strong and tough one all the time.

 

Some women have self esteem issues so they believe everything an asshole guy tells them and start to believe its all they deserve

For me, I think a part of me sensed I had some lessons to learn so I stuck it out. Thats probably just me being too kind to myself. Maybe I was just plain deluded and thats that

 

hehe, I know she's referring to me, here.

 

well, me too. that's the thing.

 

There's a couple things at work here. One, is that certain men suck up to women and never assert the full extent of their personality.

Then there are co-dependent giver-taker relationships where usually the giver complains, but is just as responsible for the dynamic as a whole as the taker.

Another, is women who are insecure and need whatever whatever validation from frat boys. OK.

As for myself, I have never sucked up to women. My concern at the moment is to actualize all aspects of my personality. And I have both sensitive and assertive in me.

You don't like it? Or you expect me to fit perfectly in some neat little box? Deal. Tough shit.

 

cherea, you're such a loving..optimistic asshole. i'd go on dates with you if you promise to pay

 

shit, I'm dealin.

 

he gets mad when people don't love every aspect of his personality. it's all on them...

 

LOL ! Girl, that one ain't gonna pay.