what am i going to do.... :( help

we've been together almost a year. i've built a life with him. all his friends became my friends. his family loves me, i love his family. i went to his hometown with him for the past holidays. for three months of our relationship (this past summer) he was gone working with a tree planting company, so for that three months i never saw him and only spoke to him about 3 times because he couldn't access a phone or computer. it was the hardest time .. ever. I'm one of those needy people who really thrives on the physical parts of a relationship.. you know, hugs, kisses, sex! even just cuddling, or talking to the person. it killed me. so everything's good, we're very much in love.. but he graduates university this year (4 months away) where as I have FOUR YEARS left (we've got a 4 year age difference). aynway... this summer after he grads he's off to work again, and this time i'll likely talk to him even less. after that, he plans on moving somewhere else, or else traveling for a year. when he tells me his plan it's like.. he doesn't factor me into it at all, and it seriously breaks my heart. I know i sound like a pathetic needy girlfriend.. but really, am i just wasting my time?? last summer there was no doubt in his mind he wanted to stay together while we were apart, and same with me, but now if he's plannign on going for such a long time.. well i can't just up and leave school to be with him.. and it hurts so god damn bad. he doesn't know I feel this way because it's so hard fo rme to bring it up.. i don't want to sound all desperate and clingy and over-worried, especially since this is still 4 months away.. but ugh! I don't know what to do.. i am so stressed about all of this.. it's eating me up. I really don't want to freak him out but i don't know if I can keep my feelings in any longer.. this hurts so much. plus i was apprehensive to even get into a relationship in the first place.. and then we fell in love.. and ahh.. the thought of being without him and his family and everyone we're connected to just kills me. i am so lost please help... any advice!!

 

You need to seriously flat out ask him. " Hun, I really love you and our future worries me. Where exactly do you see us after you graduate?"

Cus seriously he may make up your mind for you. Good or bad and you'd know in about 5 min after he starts talking where you are going.

 

yeah man, just be straightforward and ask why he doesn't seem to be adding you into the equation of his future...

 

Ask him to marry you. Sounds like the only way your heart will rest at ease.


People grow apart sometimes. Don't stop him from fulfilling his goals because of your selfishness. You think it might end in four months, then get yourself ready to plunge into the cold pool of dispair, but do that on your own time. When he is around you enjoy every minute, every breath. Smell him, and feel him. Take lots of pictures, do every thing you can to make every minute the most amazing minute you've ever lived.