Ok.. So my girlfriend and I tried anal in the past as a way to finish from regular sex and i enjoyed it very much.. She put up a good front, but in the end told me it was very painful but didnt say anything.. She saw how much I enjoyed it and said she would love to do it for me all the time, but her ass is just too small and is painful.. I told her it wasn't a big deal and that I could live without it.. She insists that its not ok and wants to continue doing it but wishes there was something she could take to help her relax.. She often says that she wishes she could just knock out so that i can stick it in her ass, but then starts laughing to try and downplay it... Is there anything that she could take the would help her relax a bit (besides alcohol)? I don't think she should be taking medication to try and knock herself out just so i can fuck her in the ass.. I don't need it that bad...
anal-eaze is a numbing lube, but i've been told to stay away from it, it makes it really hard to cum and really easy to hurt yourself. not everyone can take anal without training (i could) fingering/rimming helps in foreplay, and she can use toys/plugs to help get herself used to it (start small) and use lube. it's nessesary.
Poppers, aka Alkyl Nitrate, is what you're looking for. It induces heat flash and tingling, augments sexual feelings not onlike cannabis, and - most importantly for your query - relaxes the sphinxter
It's a no-brainer. If drugs are required, there is a problem that needs attention, whether it's technique, relaxation, lube or whatever. If she's whacked, the risk of accidental damage is raised, with all sorts of complications. Don't do it, is my 2c.
drugs are not required... it's normal that her first time was painful, if the first thing you put in her ass was your dick. she was probably tense as well. you need to play with her ass first, until she relaxes... use your fingers, a butt plug, etc... work your way up... also use a looot of lube! it makes a huuuge difference. if you do all of this, and you are patient, she will probably enjoy it as well... it feels really good good luck!
She wants to please you and if you had any consideration for HER and HER body then you would assure her it's not necessary. Sex isn't all about pleasing your needs, dude. I hope she knows that..
Buy her a buttplug get her to wear it and get used to having something in her ass Alot of foreplay get her worked up and things go alot smoother Lube is key and getting her to relax Poppers, aka Alkyl Nitrate are also fun Stay away from those Numbing creams
its dangerous to numb the area for anal sex. pain is your body's way of telling you something ain't right
Check out "arouse her anal exstacy" . I forget the author. Amazon, i got it on kindle. Worked wonders w/ my wife.
If she really is determined to do this for you, I would encourage her to "practice" on her own for a bit. She'll know, better than anyone else, how slow to take it, and there's a pretty good chance that she'll learn to enjoy it.
Your girl friend is offering you a gift from the heavens. Take your time to learn how to have her receive pleasure from anal sex. You should both sit down and read through forums like this one and learn from other people. You and your GF should be able to talk openly about every aspect of anal sex (comfort level, lubes, position for penetration, positions for pleasure (especially for her), how often). It is important for you to make sure she is not in pain, ask how she feels when you are penetrating her, when you are in. It may take days, weeks, months, years or maybe never for her to get comfortable. Patients is the name of the game. By the sounds of it half the battle is won, she wants you to fuck her ass. Be grateful that your GF wants to please you.
Go slowly, use lots of lube then use some more, try some smaller toys, vibrators and such, anal plugs help as well. They all combine. As she gets used to the feeling, she will relax much more. Go Slow.. Oh, use a lot of lube and go slow