weight loss appreciation..

I don't think Sara is ugly and I actually don't think I'm ugly. I guess I just consider myself more realistic. I don't think I'm anything special to look at. I'm just your average run of the mill chubby girl who is trying to learn what being an adult is really all about. It just surprises me when I get the reaction of "you are beautiful". I can't even FATHOM a guy being in love with me. Just because I believe it doesn't make it untrue and doesn't mean it won't happen.. I guess I'm pesimistic when it comes to thinking I will ever find true love. I rather expect to be let down and get the surprise of my life then to have hope and have my heart break ever again. Unfortunately, that means I don't take chances very often and miss out on a lot of life.

 

Hmmm... I can kind of understand that. It's like, when I joined Hip Forums, my aim wasn't to make friends. It still isn't, to an extent. I have crazy views toward things, and I've butted heads with a few people from here already because my beliefs aren't "acceptable" in their eyes. So it DOES surprise me a little when somebody finds my way of thinking to be respectable and admirable.

OK, so it's probably not the same thing, but... I have no idea, Weeble. I still believe in true love, even though I've more or less become a recluse and been avoiding the whole dating scene for the past few years. I can be very social, but I just don't wish to be at this time. Being in a relationship right now seems at least to me as unrealistic, though, I develop crushes all the time. I guess I've in a way become too cynical as well as too picky.

Anyway, I'm not really making much sense right now, am I.... No, you're not ugly, and Sara's not ugly. I think we can agree on that bit at least, lol.

 

My lack of confidence comes from the way guys have treated me.. Usually it's a promise of the world.. sweet talking.. for about a week. Each day since the first day we have sex they slowly lose all front.. but here's the kicker, they either run away and avoid me at all costs cause they are cowards or they actually have the balls to say they just want to have sex with me but don't want to be in a relationship with me until I can lose weight.

After 10 years of having guys say that I'm fat and that they could never be seen in public because I'm a little on the heavier side. They love me cause I have huge tits and a high sex drive. I'm also intelligent and can hold a conversation so that's a plus. But they could never fall in love with me.

The strange thing is that I love me. I think I'm an amazing person. I think that my personality way more then makes up for the extra weight I might be carrying around. But see, the true romantic in me says that I don't want to die alone. I want to be in love when I leave this world. Or at least know that I shared the majority of my life with my soul mate. And physical beauty dies with age but the soul only gets more beautiful as we age. I tend to look for the most beautiful personalities to surround myself with. That means that those people I'm surrounded by are even more beautiful when they get to be old. I would think it would make those last few years satisfying for someones soul.

A lot of people don't agree with a lot of my views and I'm often misunderstood. Sometimes I don't even know where to start on specific ideals and beliefs of mine so it makes them even harder for me to express them. It's extremely frustrated to constantly feel like you are speaking some other language that someone only knows a few words meanings.

I've typed enough for now.......

 

A very good friend of mine(who is "overweight") has experienced pretty much the same thing with guys as you have. She's in a stable reationship right now though, so I think it all depends on the guy. Plus, there ARE guys out there who prefer their women to be a little on the heavy side, or the "fat women fetish" would be a total lie. At any rate, guys who run away or make insulting comments about your physique are idiots. They don't know any better because they probably grew up around shallow people anyway. But I understand it can be really hard even though you know they are the ones being stupid about it, and that you shouldn't let their comments and actions bother you too much.

But it's great that you love yourself. I believe that's where it all should start. Whoever came up with the quote "knowing how to love yourself will teach you how to love another" was definitely a brilliant person.

 

People are always telling me how to fix my life. They don't realize that it frustrates me. I'm 23, yes. But I'm only 23 and I'm still learning about being an adult. I wish more people would focus on the good qualities and not focus on the bad. I know I don't take chances and I'm too cautious. I know I get defensive too easily. Those are my worst personality flaws that I'm trying to change. One day at a time, they don't get that. What about the fact that my two most important morals in life is loyalty (romantic, family and friend) and honesty. I don't often even tell a white lie and I've never cheated. I couldn't even mess around with a guy if I knew he had a girlfriend unless she was basically telling me it was okay.

 

I relate. I SO relate. Especially recently.

 

If you're ugly, then I'm a world class athlete. You are the COMPLETE OPPOSITE of ugly...whatever that is.

 

loyalty n honesty are important .....good luck with the weight loss ....i had a few extra pounds when i was your age and have kept them away for 20 years .....im 160 the same that i was when i was 18 almost 30 years ago ! at 5 11 thats as low as i want to go [ ive been lower but its not healthy ]

 

The same goes for Weeble. You're both beautiful. Trust me, I'm the fucking beauty expert. Don't argue. So there.

 

I can't say this now, but I'm bettin' in about three years you'll be smokin' hot.



Don't rush into it... enjoy your high school years. There'll be plenty of time for fucked up relationship problems later in life.

 

thanks you guys so much, that was really sweet :&

I just have a really really low self-esteem cause of my past, the way people have treated me. I really don't get how people can love me, specially guys. Like with my baby, it still puzzles me why he's in love with me cause I really don't feel I deserve the amount of love he has for me..
But we are working on my self-esteem problems together and hopefully one day i'll be able to believe people when they say i'm beautiful

thanks again for all your sweet comments, they mean a lot to me

 

Weeble! Wow, I'm *so* proud of you, girl! That rocks...I can totally see the difference and I can tell you without a doubt that as you continue to lose weight you will see your self esteem and confidence continue to rise... I know this from personal experience.

Just make sure whether you stop or continue to lose the weight, never lose the piercings... they are very hot *grin*

 

I don't intend to.. it turns a lot of guys off but I don't care. They are there cause they are a part of who I am and that's all there is to it.

 

Weeble, here's so tips that will definately work for you, i know that they have made me (and some people i know) lose weight

*if you aren't a big meat lover, go vegetarian. taking all of the fat that comes with meat out of your diet, you're likely to lose some pounds (i lost 10, and i wasn;t even heavy in the first place) so imagine the possibilities!

*if you're hungry, have some raw stringbeans or celery. you'd be suprised how much they can satisfy a bit of hunger, without the carbs or fat in other snack

*Hula hooping!! i'm a huge hooping fanatic and i can't even begin to describe all the benefits of it, physically mentally...etc. it's an amazing workout, especially with weighted hoops. it tones just about every part of your body, especially the tummy area, and helps with weight loss. it's just like aerobics, except ten times more fun. i make my own hoops but you can buy em from many diff places, or make your own weighted one. check the sites below for good info and some sweet hoops. i got decent abs just from hooping a few minutes a day...it really becomes a hobby (or an addiction, lol!)

http://hooping.org/
http://www.hooping.org/archives/000022.html

http://bodyhoops.com/

 

Those guys are stupid, anyway

At least they are a major turn on to me - not that my opinion counts for a hill of beans, but I think it definetely makes you look sexy.

 

It actually means a lot to me.. I personally think it's sexy... it just means that other people do too and I'm not crazy like my mom thinks I am.

 

Don't make me hurt you

 

sowwy

 

it's okay just don't say that shit again

 

i'll try not to.. but it's just the truth