We Were Lovers, Now She Want Me to Pay??

My soulmate/lover and I have been together for 5 years. We grew into BDSM together, switched often, and eventually I begin serving her. In April she said she wanted to marry me or start dating others. I still have work to do completing a divorce (I live alone). WE agreed that we'd continue our BDSM relationship through this phase. Later she decided she "would not be true to herself" if she continued BDSM play with me, (the boundaries were too blurred). In Nov she broke our sexual relationship off saying she just wanted to be friends. I told her I couldn't be platonic and it looked like we were done. She then needed me to help her prep for an interview and wanted to go to lunch. I love her, so I said yes and helped her putting my feelings aside about our breakup. Now in January she sends me a message and says she's a Professional Domme, and wants me to be her paying client. She says she is also training another female Domme. I reminded her that she'd told me she couldn't do BDSM with me because of feelings and history. She said a pay relationship would help her with boundaries.

At first blush I said NO. I was her friend and lover. I am not a John. Our play was for both of us. She asked if we could sit down to at least discuss the terms.. I said ok but I'm confused. What's going on with her? Anyone else been through this?

 

run for the door as fast as you can

 

Sounds like a pretty common occurrence to me. Surely you guys can work this out. If not maybe she'll give you a deep discount.

 

She sounds too complicated. Find yourself another queen.

 

Not exactly that... but I was married, that shit cost me everything.

 

I think you better do as you're told.

 

LOL!

 

(FinDom) is a form of sexual and psychological play that involves two parties (a financial dominant and financial submissive). The submissive receives pleasure—from mental highs to sexual arousal—by worshipping his or her “dom” via bestowing financial gifts and services.

 

Does that include diamond rings and fur coats? Maybe I've been going about this the wrong way...

 

Hahahaha classic!

"I'm Lord counselor. April fool's!"

 

There's certainty no discounting the fact that she'll give it to him deep when he bends over!!! Whew...

 

Nope, I’ve never been through this, but I will tell you to steer clear from this one. She doesn’t want anything to do with you anymore and is seeking financial gain for any time she has to spend with you from now on. Move on and find another girlfriend to have a BDSM relationship with. Get the fuck outta that, today! Seriously!!

 

Interesting, I’ve never known about that type.
Fuck that, though. He doesn’t need that shit.

 

This.

No offence LordCouselor (sir), but she sounds like a bitch.

I suppose there might be some kind of "legitimate" reason for her wanting your money.... but I doubt it. From here I just see a selfish person who sees an opportunity to make a buck.

Run man. There will be others.

 

Oh you gotta pay up, womenz better have a cheque book when dating me like yo bitch, gas ain't free.. You better pay up, I'll even take food stamps, kid.