We don't agree, but he says he must

Tell his wife whom he only has sex with about twice a year that he has desires to suck cock. Chad and I were over at Tom's house for a few hours yesterday enjoying a three-way suck fest. As we were entangled on the bed naked together and a cock in each mouth Carol (Tom's wife) walked in to change her clothes and said very little other than "You guys are always horny, I'm heading out shopping".

It was then that Chad sat up and said he had something to tell Tom and me. He said he feels he has to tell his with about his cock fetish. I personally think it's a bad idea and Tom said you do what you feel you have to do but be prepared if she flips her lid. Chad says "But you guys have wives who accept your sexual choices and even indulge from time to time, and I want that too.

This conversation threw a damper on our sucking session as we got dressed and spoke about it a little more down in the living room. Anyway, Chad is hell bent on telling his wife. Here we go again.

Some things just need to be kept secret, what do you all of you think?

 

All of our dynamics are different. You are very lucky in that both yours and Toms wife’s support you having fun together, not to mention join in on occasion. My situation and my wife’s outlook on me having sex with men is completely different. She not only would not support it, but would divorce me if she knew. I know the boundaries here. And I respect the ones I have.
It is clear to me my wife can not wrap her head around how powerful a man’s sex drive is. Otherwise she would be more willing to satisfy my needs. In most other aspects of our marriage she is very loving and giving. But her attitude toward sex is that since it is not important to her it must not be to me either. Even though I have tried to explain it to her more times than I care to remember.

So should your friend tell his wife in hopes he will have what you and Tom have? He needs to be honest with himself with who she is and gauge what she is willing to accept and participate in. It he hasn’t already my advice is he needs to test the waters with some private play with her where the explore other things with each other. There can be lots of suggestion explored with a dildo, lots of conversation regarding sexual exploration. But to just jump right into “ Hey wife, would you like to watch me suck off my friend?” Sounds risky. Maybe during some dildo play he could orchestrate her feeding him the dildo? Or her pegging him?

 

It depends on his wife's take on sex? I'm assuming his wife is the one blocking sex from happening? I've talked to just one guy in that position whose wife suddenly "got it" that having no sex with her husband was driving him away. Although Carol did come around in an astonishing turn of events with the help of your wife?
Just hope he doesn't involve you and Tom in this, and Chad's wife won't blab your personal business all over town?
You could try to have your and Tom's wife talk to his, to gage her reaction? Maybe arrange for his wife to see you and Tom go at it first? After the girls talk up how hot it is to watch, participate?
Or invite the pair over for drinks, and place a dummy bet where you say you're so confident that you're right, that you'll suck Chad's dick if you are wrong? And you be insistent that a bet is a bet?
Their really is no best answer to this

 

I'm guessing it won't go well if he tells.

I'm pretty sure most women won't want their men out sucking cock or getting together with other men.

I think if she had interest in anything like that it might have been mentioned or raised at some point of their lives together. Example, my wife knows I get turned on by lesbians. She has watched Lesbian porn and FFM porn with me. I've said flat out when we are in bed I would welcome her having a girlfriend or us having a threeome with another woman. Never had a friend to try this with and never gone past dirty talk but I'm serious.

At no time has my wife suggested mmf or MM or me sucking cock. And I haven't raised it with her.

I'm open to new experiences and would try a lot outside of trying it with her.

I would say this group is where a lot of like minded people are coming together to find like minded people as people have always done. From the old days of personal s in dirty magazines to the internet and forums. I don't know how it was done before that.
I know there were swingers, gays and bisexuality forever but they were probably more discrete but maybe knew the signs.

At 18/19 I knew of an older couple who were swingers. I knew them through mutual friends and people new they were swingers and he may have been Bi. I'm not sure and I wasn't keen on them.

I think she showed some interest in me at a night club one time but I wasn't sure what to make of it and wasn't leaving with the we m being in the company of others.

As I say I was younger, not into them and probably naive. It might have opened doors but it wasn't going to happen.

My wife will allow me to try most things on her and I shop for toys occasionally. She enjoys dildos and vibes but is reluctant to use them on me or initiate anal on me. She will take anal on occasion. She still enjoys sex. I'm just wanting to explore and would maybe get with random women given the chance.

As for guys I think I'm on my own if I try that. As for Chad I'm guessing he should not mention it. Others might get say he should be honest with his wife. To be totally honest I think that would start with telling her before he tried cock.

What's she gonna say now? How many cocks has he ducked? How many times has he done it? Does he take it up the ass? Is he gay?

If they were lucky enough to experience this together or before meeting it might be easier to bring it up.

 

I'm sure it takes Allsorts. Sounds like there are guys here who are happy to share their wives too.

I think the thing is it's a small community of like-minded people. In the broader community people are not so open and those that play on the side are on the down low.

There will be like minded people on other platforms and forums that enjoy various things but I'm sure it's a small part of the population.

 

I think that BEFORE Chad tells her, that he must REALLY decide if he is OK WITH either outcome from telling her. Everyone wishes him the good outcome, but he must be prepared for the WORST CASE option. If he isn’t, then don’t.

What did Chad do and what was the outcome?