I have been sleeping around with my Best Friends sister.....there i said it...I had to tell somebody...Ive known them each for about 19 years of my life and we grew up just like brothers and sisters....but "the girl" has blossmed into something amazing... i cant explain it...but now that we have been hanging out this summer i think im falling head over heels for her...weird....I didnt mean for it to happen like this....I dont know how to tell my buddy that im sleeping with his little sister and i have feelings for her....when we would be the ones who would protect her from guys like us...but i do like her...alot....we went to H.S. together and were really really close but it all was plutonic...and we both knew that....but then this summer we cant keep our hands off eachother....its great.....but im in a bind...do i loose a best friend or the girl....but if pick one or the other i risk loosing my two best friends.......it blows...any suggestions.....
Try reassuring him that you love his sister. You know, that you're gonna treat her right and respect her.
not your fault but just understand that your friend will definitely go into defense mode for a while. He is just feeling the"big brother thing'. A natural instinct to protect his 'little sister' despite her age. When he has accepted it, then you two can prusue a relationship but please bear in mind that any conflicts that you might have might be amplified in his eyes because he will see her every day and you very often and he will feel the need to take sides even though he doesn't have to. Initially, he might feel hurt and betrayed so both of you will have to assure him because otherwise his sister will feel alot of pressure at home and you might in turn get angry at your friend for causing her unhappiness. When this happens just always remembers that he is just trying to do his big brother thing, don't argue with him for that. Try to talk to him depsite the difficulties and maybe his stubborness but don't lose a friend of 19 years for that. And also if the relationship do end, assuming that you all are still quite young, there is a possibility that you might lose both friends. Just depends on how you start the relationship and how you work it out. When the relationsihp do come to an end, give each other time to take a break, then you can slowly start getting back at being friends again. Often when old flames try to become friends again, they ended up doing physical things. If you don't want that, be sure to draw the boundaries at the very beginning of your life after each other and stick to it for ALL 3 parties. But who knows, it might jusst end really beautifully too. You just have to tread very carefully because you have another friend who is subconsciously involved - the brother.
Sounds like you are too young to understand that friends, well....... "true friends" will always be more important to have around than any significant other. Reason why I know this? I have been down that road before................. ~namaste~
You could tell him together. He's probably going to be protective and sort of weirded out, but if you're his best friend, he should know how you'll treat her. He should feel good about the fact that his sister is with a guy that's his best friend. He knows you and he obviously likes you as a person. If you're a good person to him, he should see that. Sooner or later.
Whatever and however you tell him, the bottom line is that you tell him - before he finds out on his own, cuz then he might freak out. Just imagine what he'd do if he catches you making out with his sister...that's defintely a situation you do not want to be in.
Well, it could turn out like 'Friends', when Ross was well please Chandler N Monica got together. Give your friend more credit. Surely, he'd be more pleased she was with a guy he liked and knew, rather than a stranger he disliked or knew nothing about? But, then again. Your friend will know what kinda boyfriend you are, by going on how you've treated past girlfriends. So, let's hope you've been a good boy! lolol I hope it works out for you.
id take the girl if your friend is like my friend was you just take an ass whoopin then its cool lol. i told him and she was there so im like well hell i cant hit him with her there so i took the beating but we were still friends after a few weeks.
i wouldnt come out and tell him your sleeping with her. i know i wouldnt want to hear that. but instead make the idea that you and his sister are spending time together and alone. once he becomes okay with that, tell him you're dating eachother, once he becomes okay with that then you can tell him you're sleeping with her. basically go slowly when breaking the news. if he doesnt like you spending time with her, then make your decision there whether or not to keep seeing her.
Well thank you for all your advice on this subject.....I ended up telling my buddy about his sis and I on the 4th........I think It was the alcohol....but I just came right out and told him...... i just told him how I felt about her and he just looked at me...and then smiled and said thanks.....I asked why he said thanks.....he said i was better than the other guys she hangs out with........and that he knew this was going to eventually happen sooner or later.........so all is well, and the summer trudges on...but thank you again for the advice........see you at the volcom contest Johnny D.... and no more advice for you(dont slack this time hahah).....................peace and vision
