My ex never used to be able to orgasm unless we had sex really hard and fast and without a condom. He would then take a really long time and leave me sore. He didn't masturbate, he didn't agree with it unless I was there with him and before we met he hadn't masturbated for years, it took a lot of persuading for me to get him to do it with me there so I know he wasn't lying about that. I could never bring him to orgasm by hand or with oral sex either without him helping out with his own hand but he would get hard from the slightest touch. We were each other first sexual partners so neither of us have much experience. He always said he enjoyed what I was doing and that it wasn't my fault but do you think he was lying? Now I've ended the relationship I've started doubting everything and would like a second opinion.
there is no way anyone here is going to be able to give you any sort of real second opinion. we weren't there, we don't know the situation at all. if the relationship is over, why even bother worrying about it?
Hard to believe it possible for a guy... but could he be medically or psychologically 'frigid'? Perhaps from a earlier trauma? Sounds like the biggest problem in the relationship was lack of true communication. If the relationship is still salvageable, I'd start with more talking about this issue, and if he will not open up, maybe it was better being over anyway.
I've heard of guys not masturbating for 'personal reasons' before and I didn't doubt them. It's strange but hell it happens, I honestly don't know if it would affect the persons sex life but I would probably assume so. he most likely wouldn't have practiced kegals (although I only did it subconsciously until recently) and although the body ejaculated every 40 days or so if left to it's own devices he simply wouldn't be used to the feeling of having his penis stimulated. As a guy it seems strange since I don't think I've taken more than 2 weeks off masturbation in 10 years. I suppose at the end of the day since your vagina got sore (as most do) you guys were probably physically incompatible. Don't let it jade you though because with 95% of other guys this won't be a problem.
That tends to happen when someone masturbates often, to the point that their own touch is the only thing that can get them off. Men will often lie about masturbating because insecure women have made them feel guilty for doing it. Or, he has a sensitivity problem and should be seen by a doctor. Why waste the time and/or emotion?
