Wanting to try anal. Too painful

Discussion in 'Oral and Anal Sex' started by ClearSkies, Jul 28, 2013.

  1. ClearSkies

    ClearSkies Member

    I'm a bi guy who, for the most part, is ALWAYS the dominant one. I've always wanted to try anal though because I want to experiment with all possible sex positions. The problem is it hurts to damn much. I tried with one guy and could barely even get the tip in. Then I tried again with another guy, tried to breath through it, he got half way in and pumped a bit before it just got way too painful. We even used A LOT of lube. I just don't know what to do but I really want to try it because I hear once you get past the pain it can feel really good.

    Any tips???
  2. silk896

    silk896 Member

    Unless you're trying to have sex with guys with "whoppers" ..... it's all in your head.
    You've really gotta want to do it. You're tensing up and that little sphincter is one tough little hombre ...... when he's all tense and tight ...... nothin's gonna get past him .... regardless of lube.
    Try a few non-penile insertions in private - get used to relaxing and accepting whatever it is that's penetrating you.
    Unfortunately, the rest is really in your court!

    Two points:
    *yes, I'm female. But anal sex is actually the same for both genders when it comes to the actual penetration part.
    *yes, it feels really good when done properly. Evidently better for men 'cos you got a prostate!!
  3. Female as well... but advice is advice

    Maybe everyone is different, I have found that once my partner enters he has to stay still for a moment, I don't really know if it's for me to accommodate his size or if it's for me to relax after the initial intrusion :p Once I give him the go ahead we are all set but if he were to start pumping right from the get go it would be too painful.
  4. *MAMA*

    *MAMA* Perfectly Imperfect

    This statement made me laugh so freaking hard. Oh goodness.

    Anyway, both of these ladies make excellent points. Being relaxed is definitely the biggest thing. Start really really slowly, until you get the hang of it.

    Either way, your first time is probably going to hurt and be uncomfortable. Once you get past that though, you'll be having a good time.
  5. Manservant Hecubus

    Manservant Hecubus Master of Funk and Evil

    Good advice so far.
    Sounds like nerves.

    Time for a small butt plug. Get use to relaxing with it. It will help with general stretch as well. Pro's take girth because they've been anal trained. It's a process. No need to jump right in!
  6. a couple good stiff drinks will help the first time around...no kidding
  7. PineMan

    PineMan Senior Member

    Position is also important.

    I am also Bi & the first time I received Anal, I did what I had seen in so many porn videos & used the Doggy Position, which turned out to be a painful penetration. However, one day I remembered a time when I moved on to Anal from Vaginal with a woman I had been having sex with in the Missionary Position, and my penis found its way in easily & relatively painlessly, so next time I was receiving Anal I tried the Missionary Position myself, and true enough, things were a lot easier for both parties. Ever since then, I've always tried to make sure of going Missionary, both for giving & receiving.
  8. ClearSkies

    ClearSkies Member

    Thanks guys! I have little opportunity to trying all these things (no partner) but I will try practicing on myself for now until I get use to it.

    I think relaxing will help more, I tend to get nervous in these situations.
  9. Eggbert

    Eggbert Guest

    my partner and I love anal, practice with a small toy firstly then onto a bulbous plug, once you lube up and get the thickess in, you ass will grip that thing hard and it will feel amazing :D !! Let yourself relax and stay calm and enjoy the ride, Won't always be easy riding.......... But no pain no gain

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