Due to an incident many years ago I've never been able to ejaculate during a blow job and recently it's been bothering me what it would feel like, my wife isn't too keen on oral anyway and when she does try it she insists on using a condom, now I know a condom with a stranger would be a perfectly sensible precaution, but to me it's like trying to eat a sweet with the wrapper on. I think if she'd work on her technique and have a go without a condom, I may possibly manage it, but she's just not interested, any suggestions, if I'm not going to get anywhere with my wife doing it then how? If it did come down to doing it with someone else, it would be strictly a one off, It may sound contradictory, but I love my wife, I just want to experience what it's like to cum during a blowjob.
I Think you reason could be deeper than not just ejaculating, in you brain it knows why, have you ever tried it with another person being male or female to just see how you get on.
Were you able to before the incident? This is just my opinion. BJs can be great or not worth the time. Depends on the mental state of the giver and the receiver. If the giver is really into it, just as good as V sex. A good BJ is like an art form. I would not blow an otherwise good marriage to get one from someone else just to find out what it feels like. Definitely not worth it with a condom.
I'm 51 and have never had an orgasm from a blowjob! The best have tried and they always end up having to stop due to a sore neck lol. My current wife loves to give blowjobs so much she gets crazy and eventually has an orgasm when she's taking every inch down her throat. I've been SOOOOOO close to blowing a half dozen times now and her neck gives out! So it's just a matter of time and it's going to happen. Mentally being into it is EXTREMELY IMPORTANT with me. A condom on me cuts down the sensitivity so much I have rarely ever orgasmed with one on, and when I did it was doggy style and pounding hard for a long time. So for me a condom would make it 120% that I wouldn't cum during a blowjob. Not having that condom on would probably give your mind a huge boost, and your cock a huge improvement in sensitivity. Wonder what her reasoning is for not wanting to feel your genuine skin on her tongue?. I can see that on a date or one night stand, but as a wife?. Something to find out, and respect at the same time. Hopefully we both experience our first oral orgasm very soon!
She's phobic about swallowing 'something' as she refers to it, it's bloody stupid, I even got her drunk one night and that didn't work, she'd never tried anal, but said she'd be willing to try that rather than a blowjob without a condom. work that one out!
My ex was like that. I got one blowjob in 10 years, if you consider just the head a blowjob lol. Less than a minute. She was so scared and grossed out with even a half a drop of precum showing! She would gag and almost throw up if she even felt cum on her finger or seen it visually. All due to getting an unexpected load shot in her mouth when she was just starting to explore sex. He didn't give any warning. Something that I'm very verbal with. I didn't even suggest a condom to her because 1: I'm pretty sure it wouldn't taste or be enjoyable for her. 2: I don't feel much with one on me. It was a L O N G 10 years, but I loved her and respected her comfort levels. Not easy to do.
I don't think I've ever had a bj wearing a condom. And I would never want one that way. No wonder you can't get off. Doubt I.could either.
I hear you and feel for you man and think I need to share. Every time she sucks me, and we've been together a LONG time, I keep hoping that this time will be it and she will surprise me and let me cum in her mouth. She knows that's what I crave, but she just can't get past the cum and pulls off to finish me by hand and it's always a eventually a disappointment. It's not a technique issue, as half the BJ with me is a balancing act - trying to almost cum and holding back for the pleasure, like edging, and trying not to go over the edge and cum and then it's over. It's been the subject of several conversations - first round was, how bout I use a flavored condom, slipped on just at the point of when I was just ready to cum, yeah, she went for it eventually, but it sure was a sensation killer, but better than getting jerked off. We did that for a few years - not every time, but maybe half - she would rather not. I tried thin regular condoms and put the Goodhead flavoring on them, that worked better for a while. Once when it was really really good and I was dying to let it go in her mouth and breathlessly I said 'please, not this time'...she pulled off like it was Kryptonite.....and off it went, hard...and I was like that was great, but I was resentful she couldn't do it that once, it would have been life changing. Later I asked, would you at least THINK about it, I really NEED you to do this. She'd tease me about it..I'm still thinking about it....for a few weeks. One day she came home with a tin of mints, 'there's something I think we can try'. I'm thinking, no shit, wow, my mind was in high gear. So later when she sucked it (after I made her cum a few times of course..) she crunched a few mints first, which felt cool, and when I was so ready to blow I suggested that she better have another mint really quick. So I laid back, this was it, finally....but sensing her apprehension, it was a little bit difficult to let it go. But I closed my eyes and let go, this is going to happen, damn the torpedoes. The first spurt went in, she coughed, pulled off and almost forgot to finish me off - I might even have done it myself. Of course it felt awesome up to that point - but she was a little freaked over it and I felt bad that I wanted her to do it. So, kind of a disaster, not to be repeated, even for my birthday... I thought well, maybe if you just did it a few times, you'd see it was not a big deal - just let it run out, I don't care if you swallow. MANY couples ENJOY it. I don't cum that much and it is very bland, no pre-cum, so that's no reason, it's all in her head. So, pretty much I've given up it, it was making me crazy and resentful. She even told me recently, you know, I hate the condoms...great..so not even that, back to pulling off and jerking it or not at all. Love and marriage is a gentle balance, but I struggle with this one seemingly simple thing and can't get past it. I can really see why men cheat, never had, and believe me I could do it just for this.
This is difficult because everyone is different and I don't know her personal experiences but I will try to give you a little insight the best I can. I never liked giving head, now I take pride in being the best he's ever had. My first boyfriend was very controlling and would often insist on a blow job, especially if we couldn't have sex, big turn off, but I would usually do it anyway because ...well I was young and stupid, also his cum tasted awful. When I met my husband, I told him I don't like it and won't do it, he was very considerate and never even brought it up because he didn't want me to feel pressured into it. It didn't take very long before I decided to try it because he was sweet and patient and I wanted to make him feel good. The fact that he didn't pressure me and that his cum didn't taste anything like my ex's (I'll be honest, I still don't love the taste but I just deep throat it when he comes so it pretty much just slides right down by passing the tastebuds) were the deciding factors for me. Now I have been giving happy head for 20 years and I love doing it. I love the smooth velvety texture of his shaft, I love knowing I control the pace, that his pleasure is in my hands.. or rather my mouth. I don't know how long you have been asking for it, so the patience thing might not work if you have already been pressuring her. You might want to try gentle persuasion and do it in stages. Like maybe try to convince her just to lick the shaft without a condom on, gradually she might move to the head on her own or you could ask that she just lick it a little. Maybe after she gets used to it a bit you could discus her taking you into her mouth but without you ejaculating. If you get to that point and she still doesn't want you to cum in her mouth, ask if you could just pull out right before you cum. The hope is to try and get her comfortable with it a little at a time. You might also want to ask her about her fantasies and see if there is anyway you could do anything for her in return. Hope this helps
If a women wont blow you forget it, if one blows you your in keep her otherwise forget it, for some women the thought of it just disgusts them, you have a choice stick with her because you love her, being she is more important to you than a blow job, or you dump her and find one who does.
I've never had a problem ejaculating during a blowjob with any of the hundreds of people (male and female) that have sucked my cock.
They have to be into it, use their hand and look up at me. Ball sucking is great but I include that with “being into it.” I would guess about 50% of those that wanted to make me cum had the skills, most of those were HS girls that weren’t yet talented.
It could be the taste that grosses her out. Maybe she is open to try without a condom, without cum in her mouth for now but to bring you close before taking it out maybe the thought of cum is enough to ruin it for her. I had a young fwb who insisted on giving me oral, she was great at it and into it until I leaked precum. That first drop freaked her out No pressuring her should help, good luck
