When i was three or so i remember i would always play with this kid named mikey. We would play at the park across the street from my house. we had a lot of fun and always made up games and laughed. this little playtime lasted til i was like 6 years old then i was sent to private school. i would always see him around the neighborhood. but i thought he didnt remember me so i didnt talk to him. one day in 6th grade my school told me that our buses were combining with mikey's (public) school. i thought maybe since we lived near eachother that i would see him on the bus. and i did. i knew exactly who he was when i saw him. i always wanted to casually ask him if i had ever met him before (obviously knowing that i have). but since i was the one in the school girl uniform i didnt want to look like an idiot. so i tryed to slowly get him attention by talking with the other kids and being sort of a "loud" or little rebel kid. and i seriously think thats where i got my rebellious qualities, trying to impress people. then another day he finally noticed me and he sed, "do i know you?" and i immedieatly sed" omg i think so, holy shit" (blah blah blah). then ever since then we've been pretty good of friends. and now were ganna be juniors in highschool now and he just addmitted that he loved me from the first day he saw me on the bus. I HAD NO IDEA THAT WAS COMING!!!!. like im holy shit flaberghasted. no idea. i did like him but i have bpd and i just really dont want to be terrible to him and break his heart and our friendship...advice???
I just say relax and try not to worry about it. Only question you need to work out now is whether you still like him or not? If you do, I say go ahead, and if not, then let him down as gently as you can. Hope that helps and good luck.
well before it got serious i would tell him that u still want to be friends no matter whut and tell him how u feel....dont wry about it and be urself thats whut counts...
Does he know about the BPD? If not, tell him as soon as possible, and definitely before you have any kind of sexual contact with him (if you intend to have any). Let him know what to expect. And if he later gets angry or hurt or freaked out over a behavior of yours that's related to the disorder, go easy on him. Learning about what to expect is way different than the reality of it. If he accepts your BPD in theory, but finds learning to cope with it is much more difficult, that's normal for most people. It doesn't mean he's stupid, and it doesn't mean he doesn't love you. It just means it's a hard situation. Good luck!
i told him about the bpd and the possability (i think so) of mpd. he told me he had absolutley no problem with it. but i just dont think he will understand my moods like. i've never really showed him my angry side that i have when im away from him. im afraid he would leave me when he sees that.
This is kind of a rude question in its implications, but I have to ask it: you have been diagnosed by a professional, right? This isn't just a case of you reading websites and diagnosing yourself, or some supposed "friend" hanging that label on you? I know it's an indelicate question, but that stuff happens all the time. That's a valid concern. It's like I just said to someone on another thread (and like I'm coming to terms with in my own head) we all fall in love with illusions, not people. You do it, I do it, your friend does it, everybody does it. The honeymoon is over when the masks come off, and theory and reality are very different things. You're young, but you're obviously thinking clearly when you say you realize he might not be so understanding when he actually sees your squirrely side. That's very mature, and highly commendable. As far as dealing with your own feelings in this matter... well, you would be cruel to yourself not to keep two things in mind: you're young, so you probably haven't had a lot of practice in bouncing back (but almost everybody does bounce back; you'll keep getting better at it too), and you have BPD, which makes your own emotional reactions more dramatic than a "normal" person (whatever that is) would experience. Regarding those observations, I have only this to offer:
thats cute but i've decided that im not even really looking for a relationship right now. especcially one that could be a disaster
The truth. Don't believe the "I just want to be friends" shtick will soften the blow. It won't. Nothing will. From what I'm hearing, "I'm not ready for a relationship," is the honest thing to say, but that's your call. The way he reacts to the news is his call. If he's really smitten, it's going to hurt him... a lot. That's not your problem; it's his. He has to deal with it.
