I was wondering if you people could help me? I'm 19 and have been in a relationship with a girl for a year and a half now. I care for her strongly and she means a lot to me. We both lost our virginity to each other and have had sex regularly ever since. In the past 6-8 months though i've had strong sexual urges towards men. I've masterbated over gay porn quite regularly over my lifetime and it's never phased me. After all, it's just visual simulation to get me off. But I really have strong urges regularly where I want to be with men. I know there's nothing wrong with it and i've always been open sexually. Thing is though, i'm not attracted to them. I would never have a realationship with a man but would like to have sex with them and experiment. I would never cheat on my girlfriend ever but do want to experiement at some point with men. But does it make me bisexual if i'm not physically attracted to men, only sexually? Can you kind people help?
I think I'm the same way -- it's hard not to feel sexually attracted to some degree with certain women, but I would NEVER be able to actually be in a relationship with one. I think the emotional and romantic connections needed to actually be IN LOVE with someone go much deeper than just sexual attraction. On that level, I have never doubted that I am emotionally, sexually, and romantically attracted to boys -- and you're only truly bisexual if you feel that same strong connection to the same sex. At least that's my opinion. I would say that nobody can really determine what the "technicalities", shall we say, of sexual orientation are, so you're only bisexual if you see it as an important part of your lifestyle and identity. Since your (as in, yours, Klinz's) bisexuality seems to only extend to masturbation at present and possibly a "friends w/ benefits" kind of thing in the future, I would say, no, you are not bisexual. Sexual attraction is only one part of love...
Good News, You can have sex with LOTS of guys without forming a relationship. Has something to do with guys being able to spawn without any attachment. Yeah, guys have committed relationships, but most have a knack for shallow sexual coupling without a second thought. This goes for gay and straight guys. Now the only prob for you is, will your G/F accept you stepping out for a night with the boys. How secure is she and how tolerant is she about your "special" needs that she may not be able to provide. My wife was secure enuf in our relationship to tell me to do what I need but don't bring anything home - no kids, no diseases. Her only concern was how would it impact our relationship. She was the only one I could live with long-term so any sexual play with other guys or girls was just that - for the moment.
